A Question Regarding First Impressions: Should I Talk to Girls Who Aren’t Interested at First Sight?

norwegiandoggo · 2025-06-14T08:52:31+00:00

This has been talked about many times before in this sub.

People fall in 3 broad categories: Interested, disinterested, and undecided. But for more accuracy you can place them on a spectrum from "extremely disinterested" to "first choice / super interested"

If she's disinterested. There's nothing you can do. Leave her alone.

If she's somewhat interested or undecided, you can use good game to convert her.

If she's very interested, you still need game to convert her - because if you make a mistake she can quickly go from interested to disinterested.

The more time you spend with her - the less your looks matter, and the more your behavior matters. So game becomes increasingly more important the more time you spend with her. But generally, you need some decent looks to get through the first door - so she can begin to evaluate your personality (ie. Game). Keep in mind people have different tastes - so there are some women who will be interested in most guys. Even if that guy is considered ugly by most - some women will find him good looking or at least decent looking.

GladBreak5801 · 2025-06-14T13:12:34+00:00

Besides what others shared, there is more to "is she a yes girl or a no girl".

It's hard for most guys to relate to this because they don't have female friends and never date 10s but hear me out:

Very attractive girls will always be bitchy by default because otherwise they'd be assaulted by men all the time. If a girl doesn't shower you with interest from the get go and seems cold, in a lot of cases it's a way to test you and protect herself.

So yes figuring out who is a yes girl, a no girl, a maybe girl, a looking like no but actually maybe girl, all this is difficult and comes with experience.

pigwalk5150 · 2025-06-14T13:07:31+00:00

I approach every conversation like it’s already a no. That way all the pressure is off and I can just be myself. I seem to get better responses that way. Also don’t be afraid to walk away without a number. Just take everything at face value. Be happy you just had a good conversation with another person and leave it at that. If she’s interested she will give you her number. That’s what I do most of the time anyway and it works for me. YMMV

HistorianOk2573 · 2025-06-14T17:29:11+00:00

Yes. Because when you understand the fundamentals of seduction, you will recongnize that seduction is about making her feel emotionally invested in you. As such, most girls (90%) are initially neutral towards you. Neutral means they are niether interested nor uninterested. They simply don't even think about you until they have a chance to feel your vibe.

There are some who will be super attracted to you even when you don't do anything, and then there are those who will be completely uninterested, either because something about you repulses them or because they are invested in other guys.

As for "girls who don't make it easy" there is a differnece between a woman rejecting you straight away without giving you a chance at all to say anything, and a woman who is testing and challengin you hard, but still let's you talk. Sometimes also girls are not interested because of how the way you started the conversation.

Take in mind that approaching in the wrong way and in the right way can make a big difference in how a woman responds to you. A woman who is neutral about you but who might feel bad because of how you approached her can reject you. But that's not because it was hopeless, but because of the way you approached. If you approached in a different way then she could have been interested in you.

So you have moree control than you think, but the control starts from the very first word or someitmes even from before your first word even comes out if the woman sees you coming and evaluates your body language.

Lacunaethra · 2025-06-14T08:50:18+00:00

Yes-girls = easy mode

Maybe girls = advanced mode, results may vary drastically

No-girls = don't bother

Title	A Question Regarding First Impressions: Should I Talk to Girls Who Aren’t Interested at First Sight?
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Date	June 14, 2025 8:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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