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[–]Careless_Garbage1859 32 points33 points34 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
You probably had a good chance, but talking about a relationship even before a first date? That’s the best way to get ghosted immediately.
[–]alakhdar100 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I knew I fucked up the moment I said it even before she ghosted me. So sad but that what happened.
[–]Careless_Garbage1859 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don’t stress to much about it, take it as a lesson for the next girl.
[–]alakhdar100 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I'm trying to not make a big deal out of it, I'll take it as a lesson, thanks man for the comforting, appreciated.
[–]Aggravating_Farm_125 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You live and learn brotha. You win some you lose some. Keep getting better
[–]beanenator3000 7 points8 points9 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You jumped the gun my boi. But it seems like you already know what you did wrong. Coming off too strong, too fast is a turn-off for girls and guys. You got game though, if you were able to get her number like that you’ll be able to do it again, just take some time to evaluate those feelings.
[–]alakhdar100 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I had a looot of traumas lately which made me so vulnerable and the moment I felt I could lose her I submit to my insecurities otherwise I wouldn't make such stupid mistake, thanks man for the cheering.
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[–]alakhdar100 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sorry for you, and yes you right, but I have to own it, I screwed here, this time on me.
[–]MO_drps_knwldg 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Your critical error was that you mentioned a relationship right off the bat. You came in way too hot, way too fast.
What do you really know about her besides the fact that she’s physically attractive? Instead of just focusing on having fun and getting to know her, you demonstrated needy behavior by wanting a relationship before even going on an actual date. Next time, don’t put the girl on a pedestal, take things a step at time before deciding you want to commit to someone you barely know. View yourself as a prize as well; she also needs to meet YOUR criteria
[–]alakhdar100 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely right, and I as replied on a comment before, I had a terrible time that made vulnerable which lead me to such needy behavior.
[–]Tough_Economics5300 2 points3 points4 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I've been there too. Horrible timing. Very horrible timing. You're not alone
Thanks for the support bro.
[–]bandsupjay 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Scarcity mindset. U get attached too quickly and you’re scared to lose one girl out of 1 billion for no reason. Keep approaching women and stop clinging onto one so deeply theres a billion of girls my nigga. She went cold on you because you killed all the mystery and gave her all the attention she needed on texts. You didnt escalate it to anything. So potentially she was sexually interested into you but u fucked it up so you’re in the friendzone now. Always escalate and never text all day on snap brother. Everything has to lead to something or they just get uninterested. You’re also too easy if you’re gonna give a girl all your non sexual attention just like that
[–]alakhdar100 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I get you man. PS: we weren't texting all day, but once we start a phone call, it goes for hours.
[–]bandsupjay 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago* (4 children) | Copy Link
Yea thats bad brodie. Your non sexual attention is valuable id only sit on call for 10-15 mins max. Next time just escalate things to seeing her irl, that girl had high interest in u
[–]quantumactual 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Listen to this guy. My girl still has high attraction because I don’t play the talking-all-day-on-the-phone game. For other reasons too, but that kills a lot of you poor dudes without your realizing it.
They’ll let you entertain them all day long, doesn’t mean you’ll be the one they want.
[–]bandsupjay 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You have to be a chase. Only way to do that is to not validate and give her your attention all day while being on your purpose, and fucking the shit outta her while having a good time when you’re with her
[–]quantumactual 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Bingo
[–]bandsupjay 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactlyy
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
investing too much too soon is a very common mistake men make, just keep moving forward nothing to be done about this one
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