Absolutely Devastating Approach Anxiety

carlsberg24 · 2019-02-22T18:30:08+00:00

The worst that can happen is that she is going to say "thank you, but I am not interested". You'll say "that's ok, no problem" and move on with life. Don't put too much pressure on yourself or too much stock in the situation. You will ask out many other girls in the future. Not to say that this particular lady won't say "yes", but don't get all invested in a situation that shouldn't be so stressful. Have fun with it and treat it as an adventure rather than a source of stress. Think about the fact that you are lucky to be young and healthy and in position to ask a cute girl out.

dailymanup · 2019-02-23T01:25:28+00:00

Watch this video. It will give you a reason to stop thinking and start doing. You only get one life....

Funkimonkey · 2019-02-23T14:57:46+00:00

You're placing too much on one interaction. Overcoming approach anxiety is about repeated approach and desensitization to the fear. You won't solve it waiting on a single interaction. You can go back and ask her or not, but you need to be talking to way more women if you're ever going to overcome it.

Errantsquire · 2019-02-22T20:54:28+00:00

Remember that she is going to mirror your mental state. Get in a good mental state by talking to people throughout the day and being positive. This will ensure that you don't give off a "creepy" vibe when you're talking to her. DO NOT plan what you're going to say before because it will come out to mechanically. Live in the moment of the conversation. Have intent when you talk to her by looking in her eyes. When you ask her out to ask for what she would want to do when and where instead tell her when you're available and what you want to do. If you get blown out take something funny away from the interaction.

Here's a similar situation in which I did the absolute wrong thing.

I wanted to ask out a daycare worker at church. I sat and thought about it for the entire service agonizing about what to say when I approached. When I did, it came off mechanical, rehearsed and creepy. She didn't even look at me. My eye contact was bad. Then she told some of the other people at church and I heard about it later.

I'm still glad that I approached because I learned and it's funny now. Also I don't have to wonder what could have been. I did however have to have a talk with her later asking her to just go back to the way things were. Her exact words were, "I was just taken off guard that's all." A girl shouldn't feel uncomfortable or caught off guarld because I should be giving off a leading and fun vibe when I'm talking to her, looking for investment and then pulling the trigger. These are all things I've learned after that interaction.

Remember to be talking to a lot of girls so that you can take blow outs in stride. It's also important for your personal social growth.

Title	Absolutely Devastating Approach Anxiety
Author	8765throwaway1
Upvotes	3
Comments	4
Date	February 22, 2019 6:25 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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