Want to know one of the most common causes of:

Approach anxiety

Instantaneous rejections

Flakes

& Being stifled and/or stuck in your head?

Having a scarcity mindset and a sheer lack of abundance in your life.

Let me give you an example:

Let's say you see your version of a perfect 10 (physically) hanging out and reading a book in the park, all by herself.

What's stopping you from going to talk to her?

Fear of rejection?

Oh, you mean fear of her being the only perfect 10 you'll ever have the opportunity to talk to again 1-1...

Which is really just you coming from a place of scarcity.

What about not knowing what to say?

Oh, you mean you're scared you'll say something stupid or run out of things to say, and, she'll reject you, which as we already discussed is you coming from a place of scarcity.

See where I'm going with this?

If you approached every girl with the mindset of:

"This girl and I MAY get along and be a good fit for one another; let's go see about that."

Or

"She's cute; I wonder if I'll like her personality? If not, there are plenty of other attractive girls out in the world of 7.7 billion people."

How different would you feel about approaching her?

That's almost EXACTLY what she's thinking when guys approach her!

"Oh please god let this guy be cool! If not, I still have plenty of options though."

You'd for sure stop seeing "rejections" as negative; you'd see them as a fantastic screening mechanism, because that means you and that girl probably wouldn't have positive experiences together or a fruitful relationship going forward.

Abundance means that you know what the fuck you bring to the table, so you're not afraid to eat alone.

It's a mindset not easily cultivated, but one that's definitely worth the effort.