Acceptance: 5 Steps to Let Her Go

TheRickSanchez · 2016-09-07T18:05:18+00:00

Is there a choice #4 where you act like nothing ever happened and you just drown it out with booze and sluts till you forget the whole thing? Cause I'm currently 3 days deep on that option...

ZTBEA5T · 2016-09-07T16:27:47+00:00

Step 1 is REALLY hard when you work with her :(

themiltman · 2016-09-07T17:37:35+00:00

Thanks for this I needed this

XZTALVENARNZEGOMSAYT · 2016-09-07T18:56:09+00:00

She's the first so it's fucking hard

leakime · 2016-09-07T22:48:46+00:00

I'm spotting this post exactly one hour before going to break up with a girlfriend of 7 months. Wish me luck boys...

Edit: it went surprisingly well. She agreed that the relationship had reached its conclusion.

Mr_Fiddle · 2016-09-07T18:52:14+00:00

I was a bit hesitant to read this, as I got out of a long term relationship earlier this year. Those steps are definitely on point though, and I hope that anyone who is struggling to let someone go gives this a read. Loved it from beginning to end

SplashingBlumpkinz · 2016-09-07T17:23:26+00:00

Comment deleted because the federal investigation has made me despise technology and it's pretty miserable knowing something like that happened back in 2011 but never getting the slightest bit of clarity to gauge reality moving forward. You can't function this way. I'm too angry at everyone and everything and it's too exhausting not having a way to re-calibrate any sense of what's real. I've gotten really good at faking it but I'm tired of feeling scrutinized by an ordeal that I wasn't allowed to see and I'm tired of scrutinizing others looking for hints. There's no comfort in being able to live your life when you're denied a basic grip on reality because somebody decided that it should all be kept from you. It's like being locked in a soundproofed room of one-way mirrors in the middle of Times Square because you have no idea what the scope of it all was but everybody seems to think they know your backstory now and it ripples into every aspect of life. I can't work. I can't be around people. I'm pissed at everyone and everything because I want to let go of this but I have no way to move on in this state and it's been a 5 year nightmare that won't stop because I've been denied the chance to process it and be done with it. If you could be me for a day you would see that this farce of an existence is cruel and unusual. I've lived through a string of harsh experiences that would destroy some people but I would do it all again for the rest of my life just for one day of partial clarity on what happened back in 2011. I had such a bright future and it feels like it was stolen from me. I just want to know some of what happened. I don't need all the details. I just need some idea of what, how, who and enough information so I can make some sort of sense of it and have peace and have my feet back on the ground. I don't care that I look nuts and somebody out there might think that this is funny...I don't care...this is a nightmare and I need it to stop. I wish somebody else could Vulcan mind-meld with me and experience this so I'd at least have one person who could understand. Even if it was meant to be torture, you'd think one person would throw me a bone and just tell me why so many people are so assuming of me now and know very specific things about me, or rather slightly off version of those things, echoed from person after person. Imagine taking the normal stress of life and multiplying that by every red flag experience where someone seems to be sure that they know all about personal details that you didn't share and it colors every relationship and my own perception and behavior and everything just feels fake and forever contrived and weighed down by this elephant in the room and an entire human life feels like some trivialized media blurb interest story or whatever that happened half a decade ago and despite a lifetime of extraordinary pain, not only do you get turned into a sideshow but it feels like you're the only one who's not in on the joke because they don't think you can handle knowing but they still feel compelled to brief the people in your life who weren't around for the first showing so they 'understand' you more when it really just makes it worse because not only are they underestimating your ability to handle the truth but piling on more humiliation with no direct visibility just makes every day a new reminder that you're broken and everyone thinks you're too weak to know the truth so it never gets better and you're never allowed to close the book.

richsreddit · 2016-09-07T17:42:47+00:00

Good article. I sorta needed some tips on how I can help get over my ex who recently broke it off with me.

kinglykidd · 2016-09-07T20:18:35+00:00

I needed this. Thank you.

jordan20x1 · 2016-09-07T21:51:37+00:00

Damn good post!!!

Tmonster18 · 2016-09-08T00:14:16+00:00

Kinda hard when its your best friends cousin, and supposedly shes started hanging out with another one of my friends already.....But this definitely helped, thanks :)

KaneFosterCharles · 2016-09-08T01:10:15+00:00

For me, it happened 2 years ago and I'm still torn and sad about it. I've passed some time with another girl (not a rebound, she came a year later my breakup) but somehow the thing made me even sadder, like I recognized how less fun it was, how less involving, how it simply wasn't love. So instead of getting you distracted and happier I ended up getting more depressed by the day. Don't make my mistake guys, these are good suggestions.

mambo_matt · 2016-09-08T07:17:25+00:00

She is the mother of my child its really hard to not communicate with her. She was with someone new after a week being split. We were married, ffs. This happened a month ago. I'm going through cycles but I still have a hard time letting go. I still love her, I do. But I have to accept that she doesn't and there's no point in loving someone who doesn't love you back.

MrDeathBlues · 2016-09-07T15:08:57+00:00

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JamesRustleford · 2016-09-08T04:33:57+00:00

What the shit is up with this site's scrolling.

Title	Acceptance: 5 Steps to Let Her Go
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	168
Comments	44
Date	September 7, 2016 2:36 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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