I've been lurking on Seddit for a while now and have used some of the different methods suggested on here, but only once I've already met someone. The thing is that I have no drive, no want, to go for women I don't know or been introduced to. I love women, but for some reason I've never really been one to "pursue" them. I've been on my fair share of dates, had girlfriends, but looking back on it almost all of them fell in my lap. Most of the women I've been attracted to are all strong willed women who know what they want and put in the extra effort to go for me. Occasionally I'll make the effort to go for someone but they are already someone I've met, and never someone I see at the bar or the gym randomly.

I do get a bit nervous to approach women from time to time, but I've done it and I know it won't hurt me to look like a fool if I mess up. Heck I'm in sales so talking is my job. When I go out with friends none of us are the ones to go up and randomly approach a woman and her friends. Most of the time one of us knows a group and we network through her friends. I'd like to start pursuing more women but it's tough to do when I lack the drive to talk to someone I don't know. What am I doing wrong or what can I do to change my mind-set?