Just got out of a 4 year relationship and getting back on the bicycle. Long story short, I've gone on 3 first dates now, all very attractive dateable women that are my type.

Just one problem, they all have recently/somewhat recently gotten out of Long-term relationships or divorces and I feel like they are just emotionally unavailable.

Like I'm decently attractive, I've read all the latest dating tips to play this stupid song and dance we play, I make them laugh on the date, try to physically escalate, I generally only text to setup date, try to focus on challenging her not being needy positioning myself as high value etc.

But not even kissing happens, nothing, like they just do not show any indication of opportunity to do so. Like of course I am supposed to go for it, I know, but I cannot assault the woman right haha she has to show something to allow me to make a move. I physically escalate with touching during the date but they are just stiff.

So stiff, it's like they are 16 and going on their first date with a high school crush lmao. Like what gives. It's disheartening to go through all this work and time and just be rejected essentially from THEIR life situation, nothing my fault.

So idk any tips? Maybe some tricks to help get them to open up more?

I literally think I'll just setup a FaceTime chat before first dates to try to find out their dating history a little to filter them out haha because this is getting fucking ridiculous to go through all this for nothing.

Need to treat this like a job interview I suppose, have an HR "screener" first before an in person interview lmao.

Anyways, thoughts guys? My divorced ass doesn't have anymore motivation to date haha.