Anyone with former fat kid syndrome?

SafetyChild105 · 2019-07-09T14:44:31+00:00

Bro I don’t know why you feel that way, but I understand it. I was the short fat ugly kid. I was a late bloomer and in high school girls and guys saw me as the goofy kid. Now I have filled out a bit and my face is sharper and girls approach me and show interest in me and honestly I hate it. I like the girls that give me a little jabs of insults because it makes me feel more comfortable.

I am getting used to being mildly attractive, but I’m still not there. At my core I want to be that silly goofy kid again, but I know I can’t go back to it.

Have a few really good friends that you can be goofy around and stay masculine around everyone else. With time you will get used to it.

The fat goofy kid in me is sad.

juicylife7 · 2019-07-09T13:42:13+00:00

I hope I don’t sound like I’m complaining. My health appearance and career have never been better but despite that my confidence has decreased instead of increased

rich11111 · 2019-07-09T21:11:44+00:00

I wasn't fat but I was treated like a pariah because of some rumors (small towns sometimes suck). I don't usually dwell on the past, and when I do, I try to focus on present me.

GZAfeatRZA · 2019-07-09T21:31:34+00:00

This is me. I went one step worse and started ignoring, rejecting and insulting women who were coming on to me in some sort of twisted revenge against society. Doesn’t do wonders for your chances of getting some let me tell you.

The key was for me to drop this mindset firstly and replace it with love for the human race again. I was doing exactly the same thing people were doing to me probably for exactly the same reason - to make myself feel better and deal with some psychological trauma I had been through. People are flawed and say horrible things to hurt people without thinking so to stop giving a fuck what people think, a mantra I used to say over and over in my head was “other people do not determine your value”. It still took years and I still slip back in to old ways every now and again.

So there you have it if you can have a basic unconditional love for our sad and flawed existence and simultaneously not give a hoot about what any of them think, say or do. Don’t take anything too seriously and laugh and have a joke whenever possible - even when your the but of the joke - because you don’t give a solitary fuck. Women and people in general will be drawn to this energy. And if some days they’re not - fuck it , what do you care anyway?

mandypasta · 2019-07-09T23:41:35+00:00

You think so highly of your looks, you forgot to work on your inner game, the most important part.

Imagine you were a 2/10 looks wise, and all you had to use to atract women was your words. This is what you need, your looks wont get you anything if your a shrimp mentally and still have fat guy mentality.

Time to work on personality, tonality, and game. Got the looks down, adding a great persinality unmoved by fear will make you The lady slayer.

Title	Anyone with former fat kid syndrome?
Author	juicylife7
Upvotes	9
Comments	10
Date	July 9, 2019 1:40 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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