Approach anxiety interfering

theoneandonlytim · 2013-07-01T21:15:01+00:00

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ThrowawayPUA · 2013-07-01T03:00:08+00:00

I'd suggest you try the "short sets" warmup method. When you first get to the club, open the first few groups of people you see with the intention of having only a very short conversation. Maybe even just a sentence or two, and if you're anxious about chatting with girls, maybe even just talk to the guys. It could be something as short and simple as "Hey how's it going tonight?" It takes a few short sets to get over your initial anxiety. It builds some momentum and some confidence. You can re-open those sets later if you want to go further, and it will be easier for you to re-approach, and they will already have met you so they probably won't be as resistant.

theoneandonlytim · 2013-07-02T03:40:47+00:00

I think i just need a WING MAN

refrigeratorbob · 2013-07-01T04:32:37+00:00

3 second rule, see someone, go talk to them. Dont even think about it. 3, 2 1 go.

Also, try getting there early, talk to bunch of people and you will be warmed up for rest of night AND know a lot of people there already. There's some comfort and social proof in that alone which will help subconsciously.

You still need to 'just do it' no one can talk to people/woman for you. Think about that. 3 seconds, good, now go :)

Trippy_Mane_Leaning · 2013-07-01T06:15:53+00:00

Can some one point me in the right direction my brother told me about seddit and I wanna conquer my anxiety What are the first steps toward conquering them and where should I begging with seddit any suggestion will be greatly appreciate it

throwaway_seddit_acc · 2013-07-01T17:58:28+00:00

My friend and I met at a supermarket this weekend. We were planning on hitting the pub later, but we needed to buy something for him, so we went there first. My friend asked me to find out where the milk section is with the store employee who was standing behind me. The store employee was talking to another person and I was waiting for him to be free. Then I asked him and found out where the section was. As I was about to tell my friend, "Hey, it's over there", I noticed him laughing a little bit. I asked him what's up, and then he told me something which was an eye opener. He said, while I was waiting for the store employee to finish with the other customer, my hands were literally shaking and I was looking nervous as fuck. And not only this, he said even when I called him earlier in the day, he said my voice was trembling.

So looks like my problem is not just with girls or even strangers. I just have a problem with socializing, and I didn't even realize it. The only times I've realized were when I was trying to hit on girls and that's because I'm totally in my head and observing every damn thing. It feels like I'm at the rock bottom. Any suggestions on how to improve from here?

charm3 · 2013-06-30T22:59:46+00:00

I think it happens to all of us on each new night.Think of it this way when you make your first jump into the pool the water feels cold but then if you stay there 10-15 mins it doesnt feel that cold infact now if you come out that's when it starts to feel worse.Same with the momentum/AA.No matter how good I do one night it usually wont carry over the next day.So just embrace it :)

Title	Approach anxiety interfering
Author	theoneandonlytim
Upvotes	11
Comments	18
Date	June 30, 2013 6:48 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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