Approaching can Feel Like Death (Let's talk cavemen again.)

jzboston8 · 2012-09-21T22:27:04+00:00

This is the best help for AA that I've read. Needs more attention.

RedShirtedAss · 2012-09-21T23:48:21+00:00

A lot of this stuff I've read before, but unfortunately when push comes to shove, I'm back to my old habits. I've tried something different recently. I start with a target and a set monetary penalty for the day. Lets say my target is 5 approaches, and the penalty is $50. That means for every approach I do, the penalty decreases by $10. If I do all approaches for the day, there is no penalty. If I don't, then I incur the remaining penalty. If I don't go out at all, I pay the full penalty. My idea is that the penalty money goes into a deposit box that I cannot touch (like a can with a slot in the top) and that money either can be opened at a much later date, or donated to charity (the latter is much more effective). Unfortunately money is an issue so I can't be doing this too much, but that also puts significant pressure on me to perform. I only did 2 approaches today, so my penalty is $30. When you're cash-strapped like me, that amount makes a huge difference.

Seeing this amount actually being deducted from my account is a physical representation of failure, unlike a mental one that we portray and doesn't really "exist". I think this method will push me to get the results that I want, since there is a harsh consequence for not doing so.

dontwanturvalidation · 2012-09-22T12:12:42+00:00

Approaching is indistinguishable from death, because you are putting your whole ego at stake (and historically / evolutionarily, your physical existence as well). Your mind is programmed to be completely unable to distinguish between actual death and approaching.

That's why you got to learn the true / factual distinction by actually approaching. This is nothing but reprogramming. Hard wiring takes hard action to reprogram. There are no short cuts.

Title	Approaching can Feel Like Death (Let's talk cavemen again.)
Author	TonyDAbsolute
Upvotes	23
Comments	6
Date	September 21, 2012 7:19 PM UTC (13 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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