Attempting First Ever Approach

hunterpua · 2026-04-22T11:38:48+00:00

Don't try to do too much too soon.

Especially if you have nerves, it's always better to physically approach than not at all.

So literally something like, "Hey do you guys know the way to physics lab?" or something like that is totally fine.

The words you start out with aren't important. Just make sure you are actually physically approaching someone.

And if you can, don't stop there. You've just proven that you can cold approach.

Now do another one with another simple, completely non-flirty question.

And then another one.

And then you'll start to feel yourself loosening up.

So you go for another but maybe add in a joke or a compliment after you ask a girl for directions.

And just build and build from there.

The goal is to be able to meet someone for dating purposes but that doesn't mean you have to start there.

Just like you can't be expected to play Flight of the Bumblebee the very first time you touch a piano.

Just like lifting small weights your first time in the gym, don't be too proud to start small, be happy that you're starting at all and that you're getting things moving.

Pride often leads to procrastination.

The first timers who wanna be like, "Hey I just thought you were cute and wanted to see if we'd get along" right out the gate will be standing around, hesitating for hours while the first timers just asking innocent questions will have already done 10 approaches.

Its so much easier to add the things you're aiming for when you already have momentum than to try to start with something meaningful from a dead stop.

And even for your planned opener, once you bring yourself to say that, I suggest sticking to it word for word.

Why? Its a lot less to juggle mentally than trying to come up with something unique all the time. Don't try to flirt or read non-verbals either.

Again. Don't try to do too much too soon.

It's not ideal to use a scripted line. Not even close. But perfection is not what's important here.

Momentum and consistency is what matters.

Hitting a PR in the gym means fuck all if you never go back after that.

Better to be going to the gym multiple times a week for a year starting out modestly than ego lifting one day and never coming back.

Better to be cold approaching multiple times a week for a year starting out modestly than doing what amounts to a dare one time and then being too scared to do it again for months.

Anton_Pannekoek · 2026-04-22T07:21:37+00:00

Good stuff. But if I may give a tip, don't have it as your goal to get her number. Just say hi, make some chit chat and flirt a bit. Try read her eyes and body language. Of course you can ask her number or for a date. But the important thing is just friendly conversation and saying hi.

Back2theCouture · 2026-04-22T11:42:54+00:00

Another overthinking post lol.

If I were you I’d just approach random women first, not necessarily cute or attractive. Don’t rely too much on what to say; treat them as if you just see a long lost friend that you haven’t talked in years.

See how you do it, measure the strength and weakness on your social skills, and come back here post a field report.

Title	Attempting First Ever Approach
Author	Objective-Record6998
Upvotes	4
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Date	April 22, 2026 3:50 AM UTC (3 months ago)
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