Attraction, escalation, and SOI

Listro · 2010-03-17T02:08:25+00:00

Yeah, there are ways you can probably create attraction. Other people can tell you about that and I'll give an answer to a question you're not asking...but you still want the answer for.

Remember, what you truly want is for her to want to fuck you and you to want to fuck her. You don't need to be able to know if she's attracted to you and you don't need to know what she's feeling or any of that to make sex happen.

I tend to live by the idea of, "if she's there it's on". If you want her, escalate. You're not always going to be aware if she's attracted or not, go for what you want at a pace that's good for you. If she doesn't want you, let her tell you. Remember "no" means no. However, her staying there and not saying "no", means keep going and you'll probably get "yes, faster, harder, deeper, more!"

I've had way too many girls at my apartment who showed no strong signs of attraction...even after I kissed them a few times. The only sign that let me know they wanted me is they didn't get pissed or leave after I kissed them. After enough physical escalation they ended up naked in my bed with no resistance.

What you are looking for is good sex with women you are attracted to. Yes, attraction is usually a sign you pass on the way to sex, but that's not a requirement to be seen.

Now my metaphor. Let's say you're driving to a girls house on Smith Street. The directions you're given is that you have to pass 2 green lights before turning on Smith Street to get to her house. If you never ever see those lights (Green, Red or Yellow), but do see Smith Street, are you going to say, "I can't turn because I never got to pass those green lights)? I hope not.

So, yeah try to create attraction. Buuuut, if you're alone with a girl that you want, escalation is important even if you never see obvious signs of attraction.

whoreads · 2010-03-13T23:18:59+00:00

From what I read it seems one of the problems was you sitting on a chair while she was on the bed. At one point you should have gotten closer to her and changed the framework of your conversation.

Casually · 2010-03-14T03:57:27+00:00

If your goal was just to practice conversation, how did you fuck up? It seems like you did everything you set out to accomplish. If you want more specific results, you're going to need a more specific goal.

For example, if your goal was to get her number, you could have ended the conversation like: "Yeah, I have to get back to my friends too, but I really enjoyed talking to you, why don't you give me your number so we can catch up again sometime?" Ideally, you would have prefaced this sometime before during the conversation with an SOI (statement of interest), so that it doesn't come completely out of the blue.

As far as attraction goes, just be flirty with her, tease her a little, and mix in a little bit of kino. If you can get the girl laughing and bantering with you, then you've got some attraction built. Throwing in a couple of DHV stories helps too. Empathy stuff is fine, but that's more for building rapport. Once you've built a little bit of attraction, and she's into you, then you can start building more of an emotional connection, so she sees you more as a person, and not just an entertainer.

Title	Attraction, escalation, and SOI
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Date	March 13, 2010 10:23 PM UTC (16 years ago)
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