Becoming more charisimatic

NYPS13 · 2018-04-28T16:22:40+00:00

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Cynical_Doggie · 2018-04-28T16:59:41+00:00

Don't go out if you don't want to.

It's ok to dominate in the fewer interactions you have as an introvert, and with your body language in public.

Don't do shit that makes you unhappy. I figured I didnt really like drinking or going out to clubs, and I just don't, even though my friends do sometimes. I'll smoke up with them when they want to, but fk man, don't do shit you dont want to do.

You said 'generally have fun' and then described how you are an introvert and don't know how to mingle with people. You don't find going out and mingling fun or easy.

You don't need to change that if you don't want to, but the key here is, you MUST experience having changed it once before you can judge your own preferences.

SigmaCronos · 2018-04-28T17:50:09+00:00

I’d recommend giving The Charisma Myth by Olivia Fox Cabane a read. Lots of great stuff for managing your emotions, self-esteem, as well as how to improve your interpersonal skills.

luaudesign · 2018-04-28T18:36:34+00:00

Above all things: be happy.

_Lavish_ · 2018-04-29T02:17:43+00:00

People tend to describe me as "charismatic" now and what I "changed" about how I let others see myself is just simple.... You know that voice in your head that always shit talks? Well..... I just mostly do whatever that "voice" says with a confident attitude and body language of course..... Of course I always do that with a confident attitude so that I don't come over as a douche..... What most people seem to forget is the fact that they try to be charismatic but come over as cocky and of course, people don't like those guys, so don't be that guy.... I've noticed that people liked me more since I've been like this. Some friends told me that they liked that about me because I always speak what's on my mind and that there's this positive vibe whenever I'm in the room.... I used to be shy as hell and was always that one guy that only spoke when spoken too so if I can "change" to who I am now, then you can surely too.... Just a side note: I'm still kind of an introvert though lol... I like my alone time, listening to Otis Redding and Percy Sledge (I'm 23 and know that that's not the type of music my generation listens too, I'm crazy I know looool) and either reading a book or posts here on Reddit (that's why I'm even here now lol).

And when it comes too making friends, remember that every friend was a stranger at some point... I always told myself that when I had my issues on making friends. Whenever you like someone (and maybe wanna make them become a friend) just try to relate to them but don't let it be annoying for them to talk to you or make it seem like you're interviewing them. For instance, I like to watch movies, read and mostly play video games (I'm still a kid at heart lol). So if I just met someonr, I just make a remark on anything about them, either their clothes, phone, perfume etc and talk about that for a minute or two and try to make them think "hey, he's actually a guy I can relate too) and then* introduce myself (because why wouldn't they wanna know the name of the guy that they can relate too? 😉) and then try to see if they like my favorite movies (after I got to know them a bit of course) (the type of movies that I like, that are popular now, are superhero movies). So I'll just say "you like you got a good taste in movies, have you seen Infinty War already?". If they say "I don't watch movies like that" then I know that I can't relate to them and act like I forgot to do something and bail (lol) If they have a new phone (let's say the iphone X or a Galaxy phone), I'll just talk about a feature about it that I like and just talk about how phones have changed overtime and try to have some small talk and then see what stories I can get out of them. When it comes to phones I like to give this one story about when I used an old Nokia phone, it was so heavy that some of my pants litteraly dropped when it was in my pocket because it was that damn heavy! Lol. If they laughed, then* I introduce myself. If they have have a great smelling perfume, I'll try to make wild guesses about what make I think it is. It doesn't matter I guessed correctly btw lol. After talking about perfumes, then I'll just talk about how it made me think about when I was on Pinterest learning about men's fashion and how interesting it was and then maybe ask if they've ever used Pinterest and what they're interested in the most when it comes Pinterest and then carry on from there. I guess what I trying to say is that you should listen to their response and then make remarks on what they say. Hear their voice but don't forget to listen too. Nothing ruins a conversation more than showing the other person that you didn't listen to them, so show that you're actually interested in what they have to say. Also, keep smiling every now and then, this will keep the conversation and overall vibe very positive... I've written too much already so I'll just stop right here lol Anyways, I hope I helped in someway lol Good luck bro ✊

ImJustSo · 2018-04-28T18:02:33+00:00

Despite what other dude says about being charismatic, I believe it's not based on purpose or religious fervor, it's simply being charming to the point of being attractive.

Charming is one characteristic that people use to describe me rather often, so I'll tell you what it is that I believe they're seeing. I believe they're seeing me exercise manners, exuding confidence, being friendly with every person, and being pleasant to be around. I'm not just kind to everyone, I'm considerate. I take my time to insure the people around me have an easier life, just by my being near them. I'm always smiling at people. I'm always greeting people. I'm always touching people warmly.

On top of all that, I'm playful and I banter. I tease people lightly, so that they know I'm not putting them on a pedestal. My kindness is tempered by letting them know they're not above me, I'm choosing to treat them differentially. It makes it special.

That's another thing, I make people feel special. If I'm taking time out of my day to be considerate and to make their life better, then I actually believe that they are special.

If you wish to be charismatic, then I believe you're wishing to be a service to everyone around you. You want to make other's lives better, simply by your choice and your preference. Good for you, I think you're special. Good luck, man. I think you can do it.

RosstheMoss81 · 2018-04-28T16:30:17+00:00

Being outgoing and being charasmatic are two separate things. To be charasmatic you need a purpose to the point of religous fervor for starters.

LingeringGnome · 2018-04-28T22:35:58+00:00

"Charisma" is nothing more than shocking honesty. Say what you think and feel without worry or fear.

Title	Becoming more charisimatic
Author	NYPS13
Upvotes	12
Comments	19
Date	April 28, 2018 4:17 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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