Okay, so this might be a little bit of an ignored part of 'game', for me at least. Once you're in bed with a girl,the whole 'game' part is over, right? I never really thought about it that way, but I guess looking back on it, I've had the occasional comments of "Wow, I didn't think you'd be so sweet / tender with me" that I just took as a compliment, and some other things that now make me think I could've handled differently and I would've kept these girls more interested. Because of this mentality I might have neglected my 'bedside manners' and fall back into AFC behaviour, disappointing girls and wasting chances on FWB's/LTR's with girls I thought were amazing.

Of course not all girls are like this, there's others who have been coming back for more because I was more relaxed/sweet/laid back, so I guess the trick is knowing which girl wants what.

Something recently happened that made me rethink how I acted in bed, and made me realize that there's girls that expected me to be more dominating in bed where I wasn't, and I could've kept them on as FWB's for longer if I kept things more interesting for them.

See, I'm a metalhead, and I'm into metal/gothy chicks, and I suppose there's just a larger percentage of sick puppies in that demographic. Recently, I've had this girl I met during my travels confess to me she wants to fuck me real bad. Maybe in a month or two, she'll come over once there's enough money for gas. She also confessed she likes it hard & rough, explicitly told me she likes to be slapped and dominated.

One of my ex's was like this, asked me to choke her during sex once. I was taken aback and didn't really know how to respond, and didn't go into it. Never really talked about it. So now this other girl is telling me how she wants it rougher, and I started thinking. Because of my metalhead / 'bad boy' image that I guess I have, and the lessons I've learned from seddit about how to act, I attract certain girls, and quite frankly I am really attracted to those types of girls. But in bed, I still have too many traits of the AFC I used to be.

I don't want to be an abusive asshole. But I can stand to be more alpha/manly/dominating in bed... But I'm struggling a little to think of how without it being an 'act' that I might feel uncomfortable with, and in turn fuck up the mood and look incongruent/uncomfortable, which is bound to turn them off.

And then there's the rough sex. I want to give this girl what she wants but I'm also having a difficulty imagining how I should approach this, without being an abusive asshole, which is not something that turns me on at all.

Thoughts, seddit?