Hey there fellas! I have had a wondering about a personal weakness and how I should work on it. I'm hoping you can help.

I am not socially awkward. I do not struggle with closing numbers, kisses, or in favorable circumstances, a nice shag. I typically am able to kino comfortably. I can make conversation. And I have a valuable lifestyle which people can appreciate.

BUT

I am sometimes way too eager with the girls I meet. I will meet them, spend some time with them, get really excited, and just over expose them to myself or maybe come off as pushy for planning the next time we will hang out.

Now... I recently met an hb9 Canadian as an American in Germany. It was at a huge party for exchange students which I hosted, and at which I had copious social proof. She came back to my place, and stayed the night, but no sex was had because she gave me some LMR and I didn't want to push past it because I had mixed alcohol with energy drink and many of you know, that will make your willy wilt. So I played the gentleman, friend requested her (she suggested that instead of phone numbers), and messaged her about meeting up. We tried to set something up for this week, but she is a goddamned scientist with goddamned scientist things to do, and I have five term papers to write and have a lot of social events planned for the evening. This is the last I heard from her on Tuesday:

'yea looks like tomorrow i will be at the lab til at least 930...have to repeat something from today that didn't work. its a little insane right now because im running out of time to finish my project so enjoy your party lol! we'll figure something out just might not be this week i guess'

I agreed, and have managed despite myself to not make contact since, but guys, it's seriously challenging for me and I am wondering why these games exist so let me get to the...

tl:dr

Why do texting/contact games exist? What do you guys do to keep yourselves from coming off as too eager?