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[–]trpmkb12 8 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
When I read these posts that say things like "I have been doing game for a about five months or so. And I've mostly been doing day game".
Or "Like today In day game i did like five approaches and they were all blown outs". I always feel that the guy is way too invested in getting a girl to like them. I could be wrong but your focused on figuring out how to get girls to like you instead of improving yourself...Which at the end of the day is needy. Stop putting so much of your worth into getting the girl. Instead redirect that energy into these four things.
The combination of these things will click eventually. And instead of having to chase around woman, you will instead be in a position where you will have many options and chances to have great interactions with people...man or woman.
[–]Eskeeetiiit 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly this. I just want to add that approaches and being able to talk is one part that's important. And you've got it! Good job! Now instead of finding a girl while day gaming you should be trying to improve yourself, and if your walking around and happen to see someone who catches your eye, approach. I feel like the main goal of this community is to make people more comfortable about themselves, just like what trpmkb12 said
[–]simpleafk 1 point2 points3 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
The problem is that guys new to the game aren't willing to put in the effort. They need to realize that it takes time to get good. I realized that I had to change my social awkwardsness back when I was 16. Started learning PUA materials and forums and after almost 10 years of practice/experience I still feel like I suck ass some days. I have had tons of rejections but a ton of success. It's the way life goes. You can't give up and gotta keep pushing forward. Don't measure success by the numbers but rather how you feel at the end of the day.
[–]8BrownFish8 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Oh believe me I've spent hours after hours during the day trying to do this. It you're right I have good days too. I think my biggest sticking point is melting the social anxiety, insecurities and not late my mind and fears sabotage me in my approaches/interaction. I took up meditation for it. I don't feel like I'll easily give up.
[–]trpmkb121 point 8 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Which is why in my post I suggested he look at what he's doing through a different perspective. Not only will he have more success with women but also due to the other areas of his life being improved he will be more generally happy IMO.
[–]8BrownFish8 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Thanks for your input. I am a recent engineering graduate and I am looking for work etc. My ideal life would be work, exercise and meeting and approaching women. That's the kind of life I am among to have, however some days it goes really good and some days it goes bad. So what I'm trying to work for is meditating everyday. I feel like my biggest sticking point is just being comfortable and and not let my intent be clouded by all the adrenaline and nervousness. And just staying in the interaction. I've ejected from so many good opportunities that I've lost count.
Np man. Obviously there's no easy button for any of these things. But as you improve one of these factors it will shine through into the others. Meditation everyday is a great place to start.
[–]NilsFlair 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This low in your feeling might be most visible when it comes to pick up, but if you dig deeper, you might find out that there is more to it.
I mean, for some people gaming super intensely for a medium to short period of time (1-2 years) will boost their whole life and improve everything, and that works out great for them.
Others will feel too blocked doing it that way, and they have to raise their life in a more balanced approach, just like the other guys talked about.
[–]Lambdal7 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yes, day and night game gives a lot of flakes, that's just how it is. The usual flake ratio is simply 80%.
[–]8BrownFish8 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I can't agree a 💯 with that because I've seen guys do fifty opens and get like only two follow ups as opposed to guys that do like four and get three to follow up. Interaction is pretty important specially in day game where it is more of a setting up a date etype of thing. Don't know about ngiht game as it's not strictly my thing
[–]Lambdal7 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
3 dates out of 4 opens? Or what did you mean by follow up.
[–]8BrownFish8 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I mean that the numbers were solid and it was literally up to him if he wanted to date or not. I've seen rsd Todd talk about this recently as well. That this should not be a numbers game. And you can do four approaches but make them meaningful and make then count.
[–]Lambdal7 0 points1 point2 points 8 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Solid numbers still have a hogh flake rate. Ask the guy with how many of those he met/had sex.
I've seen the dude do two approaches during day time and then meet up with both of them after. Granted doe he is above average looking and tall as well. Girls check him out normally anyways. I've seen him have bad sets only on night game. I donno I am not sure how to go about this. Some people say it is indeed a numbers game during the day time...
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