After a decade of porn addiction, I've finally getting my romantic life back on track. But I have no idea what to do. No really. I've had this conversation before with friends and they don't quite get it. When I want to approach a girl or I'm talking with a girl or I'm on a date with a girl, I just draw a blank on everything.

It's not fear. I'm shy but that's not the problem. I've gotten girls before by following my friends' step-by-step advice or letting her do all the work. But I myself don't have that instinct, so I've ruined a lot of possibilities (oh god the stories I could tell).

Staying off the porn is helping but it's not enough. Any advice?