Building confidence although being overweight?

ReplyYouDidntExpect · 2018-07-12T17:34:06+00:00

I just answered this question on another thread. Someone had asked a similar question but in regards to their height. The same concept applies, but weight is a little different because you can control it. Like the other comment had mentioned, I would hit the gym and start working on exercising. You should be doing this out of health if it benefits you, but there's nothing wrong with it if its to get girls. Tho honest truth is that you will be judged on your weight though. By women, your peers, colleagues. I need to lose some more weight myself but i experienced my success improve as my physique did. Here's my response from the other thread which I think also applies here too. I pasted the response into word and replaced height with weight, and short with fat to save time.

My opinion is that since you're asking this question you assume other people have a problem with your weight. You're acting out of fear instead of love. Instead of accepting yourself for who you are and realizing that there isn't a problem with being fat you're saying that people don't accept you because you're fat. You know what though? People don't have to fuck with you at all. In fact, people are allowed to hate fat people if they want. I shouldn't have to explain why that's just a close minded view, but what I will say is surround yourself with people who lift up the things that make you yourself. If someone doesn't want to fuck with you because of your weight what does that speak about them? Peoples opinions of you is more so a reflection about how they feel about themselves than you. I know its easy to say shit like that in context because its touchy feely and it sounds good to read and you understand it to an extent, but my opinion is that there is an epiphany that has to take place in your life. Knowing something is different than understanding something. You have to have a revelation in yourself that you are who you are and you can only control your actions. It has to be part of the center point you come back to when life rocks with hardships or people don't accept you. It has to encompass who you are as a person, your true identity, the place you reflect to when life comes knocking. For me it's a feeling in the center of my chest. Its the home for your mind. If you've ever heard someone say, finding your center they're referring to the same concept. It's every idea that encompasses your person, its how you've reflected and organized your identity.

Shit, I don't know if what I said speaks to you at all. All I know is that people are people and people are evil. The things that people hate, makes them equal. I don't know you G but I'm sure there's plenty of cool things you could teach me just like I know there's stuff I could teach you. I know your weight doesn't define you. You have to see this for yourself though.

S3xb3ard · 2018-07-12T17:12:19+00:00

Dress well and start lifting heavy. I can’t tell you how to get over your physical hangups any more than you can tell me how to get over mine.

In my case, I’m short. It’s easily enough compensated by working on being attractive, fit, and confident. You should do the same, except you have the ability to fix your problem.

SuperSilver89 · 2018-07-12T18:22:39+00:00

To be confident, you must FEEL attractive.

To feel attractive, you must lose weight. Come on, are you willing to pass up a girl with a model's body for a girl with a truckers? Think of it from their perspective.

I have been morbidly obese - over 330lbs (6'5"). I didn't even know what females being attracted to me looked like until I lost weight, and that helped my confidence massively.

Do it bro. If you need real advice on weight loss as well as confidence, send me a PM and I can help you. No exercise I promise.

HorseSalvatore · 2018-07-12T18:27:17+00:00

Just lose weight. There's no way around it.

WIA20XX · 2018-07-12T20:44:50+00:00

Keto, intermittent fasting, ease into lifting.

Start talking to people all the time.

RedStar19 · 2018-07-13T10:39:36+00:00

True confidence has nothing to do with your looks (although it makes it easier). What confidence issues do you have besides your weight?

You're a bit younger than me and have more experience with women than I have, so I think your confidence isn't that bad at all.

Title	Building confidence although being overweight?
Author	Zweitaccount
Upvotes	1
Comments	11
Date	July 12, 2018 4:24 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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