I've always felt I was super super close from making huge improvements in game, going for longs periods without growing and having no idea why. (btw that's why getting a coach or a mentor is important)

I had to figure out by myself my sticking points.

The biggest ones for me were those :

  • being a needy soy boy
  • not being able to hold tension
  • not being able to do small talk
  • having a huge ass ego
  • not approaching enough when going out
  • not approaching hot and impressive girls

General calibration comes over time, but those specific sticking points were clear level up in my game, there was a Before and an After for each of those.

The funny thing with each of those sticking points is that before breaking through you feel it's impossible to do so, and right after breaking through you feel that it was actually so natural to do and you have no idea how and why you couldn't do it before.

I'd say the fear of the unknown plays a big big role there.

But you have to trust your capacity to adapt and evolve. It's possible to do so, you just didn't figure out how just yet, so of course your brain can't comprehend a reality in which you're able to do what those sticking points prevent you to do.

I'd like to share my experience on busting through those sticking points for those who find themselves in the situation I used to be but I'm afraid that'd be a shit ass long post. Maybe another time if this post gets some reaction.