I'm a woman. How I'm handled before, during, and after sex is really important to me. And I appreciate having a man allow me to express those preferences. But the other way around, men are not so vocal in my experience. I find myself having to figure it out over time. And I know blah blah blah, men are not as emotionally aware, psychology says blah blah... but I'd like to hear directly from you.

Do you know what you like? Are you entirely unaware until you learn through a woman "figuring it out" for herself? Do you know but are simply not comfortable expressing those emotions & needs or desires? What is your version of this?