So I recently got into the Game, starting with Styles book, "The Game," since I finished that I spent a lot of time on forums, blogs, reading other books and of course the lovely seddit we all know and love and I noticed a lot of conflicting opinions. I have had moderate success and notice a common theme in all methods is improving self worth.

Women appreciate a genuine interesting guy with attributes that make him attractive, who don't just want to get in their pants... Weird. So, if you are a genuinely interesting guy with attributes that make you attractive and don't just want to get into a girls pants you should roll mad puss right?

My challenge lies in the last qualifier. I feel I'm pretty interesting, I have attributes that make me attractive but I have a hard time conveying that without making it seem like all I want to do is get into a girls pants. So what I have recently done is change the goal. Its not necessarily to get a K/#/F close, but just to "win at mental chess." I set out to say the right things, have an exciting conversation and intrigue the female. I don't care about the outcome if I can get a girl engaged and excited I win.

This does a couple things for me.
1. Increases confidence. When I win early on in the conversation I am much more relaxed and put less pressure on myself.
2. Makes the conversations better, I can have more fulfilling conversations and learn more about myself and the girl I'm talking to, because the goal is good conversation.
3. I have more fun when I'm out. Since I'm not always just trying to talk to girls to get numbers I can leave a conversation sooner and be more free to do what I want.

Basically it boils down to I put less pressure on myself, so I feel better about myself, I win more often, and overall I am improving my own self worth internally, I don't need numbers or to make out with a girl to win. I determine what a good conversation is and I determine my score.

This may sound like a cop out our taking the easy road, but I think for beginning AFC's you need some smaller hurdles to clear before you start really getting into it. We are all a little self conscious, and don't have the highest self worth, that's why we are on this. So this might help get your confidence up and help you practice conversation skills you can apply anywhere. Hope this helps.