I'm new to daygame and cold approach. As a man there are a whole hornet nest of things that can make you more attractive. The following are all the ones off the back of my calvarium:

  • Body language—chest out, shoulders and neck back, unrelenting eye contact.
  • Push-pull and teasing—hard to do with strangers but it makes you more fun, brings about investment.
  • Bodybuilding—can take a couple years, makes you worse with women before better. Women aren't as attractive when you're on a 6-month 3,000 calorie diet! A lot of downsides.
  • Grooming/makeup—I use a touch of concealer to cover dark eyes and an eyebrow pen from Sephora. Takes 2 minutes to apply everything and adds to my self-esteem. Highly recommended.
  • Social proof/diverse friends/social media—hard to express, hard to build, can be inauthentic as an introvert, shallow.
  • High status job—might attract the wrong women if it's high-paying rather than artistic.
  • Fashion—tailored clothes, bodybuilding. A little risky as clothes unpredictably shrink. Have to listen to Death Cab For Cutie just to browse clothes. Fashion is a skill.
  • Reading/intelligence/free association—need good memory to remember topics you read about. Every week I write down what I learn in the Sunday paper and witty lines and ripostes from books
  • Voice tonality—emotional, up/down, not monotone although plenty of women are attracted to those guys. Extreeeeeeeemely difficult to master and retain.
  • Approaching—approaching itself and racking up rejections gives you a binary choice, 1 of which is make you more confident and comfortable in your own skin.

Has a combination of any of these improvements led to more positive or intimate man-to-woman interactions for you? I'm a big fan of Mike Mehlman, he's the 1 guy who galvanized me to approach after a year of ruminating. He recommends mass direct-approaching and taking rejections left and right with positive interactions (getting contacts, dates, sex) as unintentional byproducts. I love this idea but living in the suburbs I am lucky to see 5 minimally attractive women in 2 hours. And when I do approach a lot of the social skills like tonality and wittiness go out the fucking window. So I'm trying to figure out if it's worth working on all the things listed above when I could just eventually move to a high-density city and be my natural self.