hola folkens

-be me, 23

  • picked up a girl at a party and since then been seeing her and two others

  • everyone is aware of the casual nature of these relationships

  • they also see other men

  • the girl i met at the party and i get close, there is chemistry

  • start wanting to girlfriend close

  • start asking her questions i don't want the answer to, but curiosity gets the better of me

  • learn she's also seeing a 30 year old business dude

  • conclusion she says she sees me more than she sees him.

  • she says she can be more herself around me because of similar sense of humour/age/interests/uni courses

  • she says he's better at fuvking because of more experience

  • my penis inverts

  • can't bring myself to fuvk her because of (hurt) pride(?)

So I've gone temporarily underground. What would you do in this situation? Bite the sour apple and get better at sex (with someone else or with her?) Cut it off with her? I've been considering cutting off with all of them and starting with a clean slate. She still wants to see me and goes out of her way to express this, but my masculinity is aching. She isn't completely ready to give up polygamous freedom yet though

What does it mean that she likes me better, but gets off more with him? Psychologically?

Sidenote: It's not me being bad in bed, he's just better. Have partners who can attest to my capabilities. Does it have something to do with: - he might be more financially secure - he doesn't have as many emotions involved as I do - he's older and experience trumps all?

And what should I do? Cut contact and resume self improvement in different aspects (not that I have stopped) or try to one up with guy and maybe get the girl?

gimme some wisdom