You should never confess, not now, not at a different moment because confessing is not how you progress things romantically with a girl.

Confessing is something that you see in movies like Far From Home, where the protagonist, who likes a girl, is insecure, and as such rather than hitting on her from the beginning and making his interest known clearly by flirting and escalating things sexually, he instead chooses to hide it and be friends first…

He hopes to get close to the girl, so that she starts to trust him or something, and then one day prepares the moment for the big reveal, hoping that if she finally knows how much she means to him and how much he likes her or cares for her, she will come to the logical conclusion that she should date him.

The problem with this approach however is that this isn’t how attraction and dating dynamics work, and by being close friends first with her he is actually putting himself in the friendzone category, as the dynamic he has created with her is that of a “brother and sister” kind of relationship, rather than a “man to woman lover” relationship.

A girl knows pretty much immediately form the first few interactions if there is ever gonna be something with a guy or whether it’s gonna be just platonic thing with the guy, meaning that all the time you take trying to gain her trust and becoming close with her is actually a waste of time in which 99.99% of the time leads to getting the “let’s just be friends” speech.

You don’t make her like you romantically or sexually by being her friend first, you don’t get any points neither so that she chooses you over other guys, you don’t even are a priority when she decides to date someone, in fact she can easily meet a new guy at a party who is not her close friend or anybody important to her yet, and kiss with him that same night, or even have sex with him.

How come a guy she just met and who hasn’t gone through the friend route first can kiss her that fast you say? Well because he is hitting on her from the beginning and moving things forward much faster than you…

He knows there is no point at all to act like friends first, because he isn’t interested in a friendship with her. He knows he is into her and as such, he just plays it direct, he hits on her, and makes her feel desired right away…

He doesn’t wait weeks or months to make moves he goes for the kiss rather quickly when the temperature between him and her has increased and there is sexual tension, as he should.

He never actually confessed he just expresses that he finds her cute, and sexy, that her smile or her ayes are making him go crazy for her, that she is special or whatever and starts doing some physical touch like holding hands and going for a kiss…

he doesn’t ask to be more than friends, he doesn’t tell her shit like: li really like you a lot or i have deep feelings for you, and i was wondering if we could be more than friends”… Nah he doesn’t do any of that bullshit, because that’s not how you do it anyways.

You don’t ask for something serious if you haven’t even kissed with to her first or sleep with her first, you just don’t….

You don’t go from acting like a good friend and then randomly saying hey actually i love you and i want a relationship lol… That overwhelms the girl who didn’t see that coming at all, and can’t understand what the heck you just said.

Cuz all this time you were behaving like a friend and now suddenly out of nowhere you say you want some serious romantic commitment like of course that’s always gonna be a no.

Heck she doesn’t even see herself kissing you if you have always acted like a friend first, she will always see you like a brother.

Conclusion:

So no, it’s not about confessing dude. It’s about escalating. It’s not about going the friend route, it’s about being direct from the beginning when you are not friends or anything about the fact that you are into her… It’s not about asking to be more than friends or asking for a relationship, it’s about creating sexual tension, elevating the temperature and going for a kiss.

Confessing is a beta move… It’s ok when you are a teenager and you don’t know any better, but as an adult, you need to forget hat approach, because 99% of the time you will always get the “let’s be friends” speech.