Word of warning: I’m not a coach, have no extraordinary success or great experience. I merely read and compile data and draw my conclusions.

0: Introduction:

Due to the Community getting bigger and bigger the amount of articles, good and bad, has also become bigger and bigger. This would create a situation where people would not be able to ‘see the forest through the trees’. In order to alleviate this problem and to connect the dots to create a more opaque overview of the Community and it’s ideas I’m making this post. I try to be as elaborate as possible and will try to back up my claims by posts of more authorized figures such as major writers and bloggers. My own notes will be between <…> and I will inform you when I’m drawing conclusions that are not backed as such by authorities in the Community. First of all I will be writing about general success in life, since the Community is not all about picking up women. After that I focus on the subject of women and compare inner and outer game and after that I try to show how the two connect .I hope this will be of use to some guys.

1: Succes in life:

The thing people seem to be after the most is succes in life. Now, how would one be successful? I’ve figured that according to this article, one has to be valueable to others in order to be successful at life. In order to be valueable, according to the same article, one has to do something, to take action. A great suggestion about what exactly to do is Krauser’s post. Now there is obviously also a social part in succeeding at life in general. To learn how to deal with people in a friendship/acquintances way, one should read the book "How to make friends and influence people" by Dale Carnegie. Note that, Dale Carnegie doesn’t necessarily suggest to be beta to deal with people in this way. Actually, according to a video from The 21 Conversion that has been posted on Reddit last week, by DJ Fuji, there are two frames in talking to people. One of them is in a friendly frame, and the other is in a sexual frame. Obviously the first one is the frame you’ll learn about by reading the book by Dale Carnegie and the sexual frame leads to my second point.

2: Succes with women:

Since this is Seddit the advice people are mostly looking for is how to deal with women. In order to get women one needs to become an alpha male. This knowledge comes from evolutionary phychology and evidence is numerous. For instance one could look up alpha-male traits and compare them with the attitude that people try to project by using outer-game. <I would go as far as claiming that outer-game is basically ‘applied-alphaness’>. So how does somebody become this alpha male? From here on I’m mostly drawing my own conclusions because I cannot back my statements up 100% by using posts from more experienced authors. In his video, DJ Fuji makes the brilliant comment that you should look at advice and relate it to you. You shouldn’t rely 100% on inner game teachings and not rely 100% on outer game tactics, so keep that in mind. <I think this is because of the paradox of seduction: outer game doesn’t work when you don’t have your fundamentals covered is the one side. The other side is that you cannot get your fundamentals covered unless you do something ‘alpha’ (due to cognitive dissonance). The conclusion is that you have to do something (and probably fail) in order to get your fundamentals covered. I try to back this up by referring to an [article](http://www.solvemygirlproblems.com/2011/02/is-it-really-possible-to-become-alpha/) written by Shark, in which he describes a beta and an alpha both having approach anxiety, but because the alpha tries again after his failure he will overcome his fear and get the girls in the end.>

So back to the actually becoming of an alpha male. First of all, Shark, over at Solvemygirlproblems.com wrote three excellent articles about becoming an alpha male (here, here and here). Basically he is using the existence of cognitive dissonance to his advantage. Basically the idea is that if the mind is beta and the actions are alpha, the mind will slowly also become alpha. The other way around also holds: if one thinks Alpha, one will gradually act more Alpha, although I think that actions speak stronger than thoughts (see this).

3: How is success in life connected with success with women?

In my opinion, success in life is connected with success with women because competence breeds confidence. I cannot find the article I’ve read it in but I’m sure Neil Strauss came up with that expression. If you know you’re competent by your success in for example your career you will also be confident and you will take that confidence with you when talking to women. Confidence is an attractive trait for women (it’s part of being alpha actually) so that is how having a successful career for example could get you more success with women, granted you don’t screw it up with beta behavior.

4: Conclusion.

Seems to me that the only conclusion I can possibly draw from all this is that one should really do something to get what they want. You should work hard. Things worth to have don’t come easy. The thing that strikes me most though is that it all seems such an easy solution to an obviously complicated puzzle. I feel like the people saying “just be yourself” instead I conclude “Just work hard, do something”.

<Suggestions, thoughts, comments? Am I totally off? Tell me and maybe I can edit my post to help put the pieces of the puzzle together and solve the puzzle.>