That inner dialog will fuck you up! You think you aren't good enough, that you don't have what it takes. Your mind will go blank and you’ll freeze up.

The problem isn’t that its happening or that it has happened, since we’re all human, but that we let it continue to happen over and over again. That inner dialog speaks of fear, anxiety, worry, self-doubt, limiting beliefs, negative self-talk until there is a complete takeover.

These negative words weave themselves into our being and take hold in a way that doesn’t physically hurt but by the time you do feel anything at all, it’s almost comfortable.

That inner dialog doesn’t want to be shut off, you can't realize where it’s coming from or it knows what will happen so two things will typically follow so that negative self-talk can continue to thrive.

  1. The blame game begins. Very simply put, the reason this is happening is because of everyone and everything else but you. After all, you tried your best (at least that what the inner dialog will tell you)
  2. Excuses or a list why nots, cants and because this or that will follow. Very few of them tend to be real.

This can go on for years, decades and a lifetime if you don't get in there and sort it all out. Take control of your inner dialog. It doesn’t matter how or how long it takes but it's damn sure better than the current state of things or what will happen to you if you don't. You can start to take back control with things like:

  1. Meditation (daily)
  2. Find a Mentor (someone you aspire to be like. It can be digital as well)
  3. Dive into self-improvement/ personal development
  4. Set small but attainable goals (WRITE THEM DOWN!!!)
  5. Try Daily Affirmations ("I will be successful" or "I am loved")
  6. Therapy if needed (Group therapy as well. You’re not the only one)

Again, it doesn’t matter how or when you choose to take control only that you did take control of the inner dialog and doubt.

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