I can only expect this to get downvoted since it uncommon, and quite a few struggle with AA and such. I enjoy being different and doing the opposite things to stick out.

Let's skip the intro and small talk - we are in convo and both sides are comfortable. I can only think of personal situations for examples, so bare with me.

The girls I have no interest for, minimal interest in conversation, let alone any attraction are quite attracted to me. (I enjoy the chase)

Vs

The girls I have a genuine interest for and enjoy talking to seem to get deterred more and more the further I get into deep conversations with. Talking on deeper levels is natural for me. Friends have mentioned I can't jump into topics like that so soon, and I'm aware.

It's quite common for me to show up and show minimal attention to a girl. For some it works, for some it doesnt. Either way intrigue goes out the window mid game.

Any tips or pointers to say less or charm more with less words?

Thanks in advance

  • happy, fit, well dressed, confident, social guy who still can't pull the trigger when the time comes.