About a month ago I k-closed a girl at a party and got her number. Since then, we've texted a bit nearly every weekend since and I got to see her once more at another party 2 weeks ago where I k-closed again.

Last night I was texting her about her night. I suggested that "we should hang out later tonight" and she agreed. I met her around 2am outside, talked for a bit, then asked her to come back to my place to enjoy some wine.

She came back and all was going well until I tried putting a condom on. I had a hard time getting in on because I was only semi-hard. I was hoping for that to change soon after, but it didn't. I suggested for her to give me handjobs and blowjobs but they didn't do shit. Probably 45 minutes went by before we just gave up and I just lied down next to her and talked.

I was so fucking pissed because this had never happened before. I was trying to figure out what caused this because I had no idea. I was coming down from being slightly drunk, but alcohol has never caused me to fail like this before so I know it's not that. I think I may have been slightly nervous because of the build-up over the past month to this event. Maybe I was thinking too much about it that night. I really don't know.

I was somewhat expecting her to leave after we tried for about an hour, but she ended up staying. Although she laughed a little bit during the process, she said it doesn't change who I am and that we'll have more opportunities in the future.

Has this ever happened to you guys before? What tips do you have for me to make sure this doesn't happen again? Also, do you think it would be bad for me to text her and ask her to come over again tonight? Or should I wait till next Friday?