This works bets if you are past 40, married looking for something on the side, or both. But it work also for younger single guys wanting to hookup NSA.

  • First of all, it doesn't work like you post something, and you hookup right away. At least not for me, it has happened once, and only once.

  • Confuse them. If you are married post in the Strictly Platonic, say that you are married and you are looking for a Married woman to... talk and be friends bla bla bla bla. Once you meet her, just be friends, flirt a little, but don't make the first move otherwise she'll call you on the Strictly Platonic", but if you set up the stage like a secluded place, she'll be the one making the first move, or showing you the signs that's OK for you to make your move.

  • Confuse then Part II. Post in the Casual Encounter section, and say that you want to meet someone for coffee, do say that you are married and you would prefer someone married as well. Nothing more than that.

  • Keep on posting, post every other day or so, change a bit your age and the location, so that a woman doesn't see that you are positing every day. If asked say that that was the first time you posted, I am sure they will tell you that that was the first time they answered an ad.

  • do not reply to emails right away, check your emails once a day, respond then.

  • lose weight, go to a gym. Your goal is to have a great body. Let's face it, guys in their 40's often have a beer belly if not overweight. /r/fitness is a great resource. Women have told me that I have a body of a 20-something. Being married don't sent a face pic, but you can send a body pic.