I am just you, fast forward a couple of decades, maybe 3 for some of you; scary shit!

You've never met a AFC until you've met my former me, I will spare the stories, you know them all in principle:

  • no girlfriend in high school, well I did manage to get one in my senior year

  • but then she cheated on me

  • so did my second girlfriend, and the 3rd one...

  • dating was a nightmare, girls would either blow me off (figuratively speaking), or take advantage of me by treating me like their meal ticket. I learned the hard way what a dinner whore is. Has nothing to do with sex, and a lot to dow with who gets stuck with an expensive restaurant bill; and other expenses.

But I am stubborn, and PFS (Pretty Fucking Smart), found out about PUA books (this is pre-internet) and I kept reading, studying, practicing. I got less horrible, then less bad, then... fast forward a couple of decades and I am good. I can practically get laid any time I want (literally speaking), and I am not kidding; at any point in time there are at least 3-4 or more women that I can text for some good sexy times. A couple of years ago I was going through some stressful times at work, so I thought that some wild sex would sedate my stress, so in 48 hours, one weekend, I slept with 4 different (new) women. That was the beginning of my introspection about becoming so good at PUA.

You see, in the process of becoming a good PUA, I become not just a better person, but an awesome person. I know some of you might have issue with my promiscuity... that's a personal choice. Back on track, in the process of becoming a PUA and gaining confidence, I cultivated my career which has flourished beyond my expectations, my body which is trim, toned and abs showing; my mind since I have mastered a handful of disciplines and I can hold a conversation in a multitude of topics; my interests including sailing, cooking, playing guitar, photography, sculpting, and writing.

Many of the good PUA gurus in Seddit and out there, including TofuTofu and Mark Manson will tell you to become an awesome person yourself, the person that you've always wanted to become, the women will come eventually in the process, attracted to the new awesome you.

And, it's so very true. Indeed.

But here comes the punchline: once you've become awesome enough, you'll demand awesome women, and I am not talking about HB9+ physically speaking, but AB9+, Awesome Babes who are living the life of their dreams, beyond their dreams; who are cultivating interesting interests, who can hold a conversation, who read actual books, who take care of their body by eating right and woking out (google this "Strong is the new skinny"). Well, sure it beats being a shy, awkward AFC, but it's still kind of lonely once you meet women, beautiful women who apart for being lucky in the gene pool don't have that much going on for them. And yes I sleep with them, but it's just a physical thing and nothing more than that. Trust me when I tell you that it's sad, and kind of lonely.

So now for the past year or so I have not gone out there much, just a little here and there. Often I talk with women and I am seeking to connect on an intellectual level with someone interesting and good looking, but... I've yet to find one. Actually I have found one, and only one, literally speaking, and we're good platonic friends, we both know that it's all that we can be. But I have to find one interesting woman who is the female equivalent of the ideal man/PUA that many people in this Seddit aspire to be, and are working very hard to be.

If you're out there growing personally and progressing in becoming an awesome person, a little at a time, one day at a time; and you're also having more and more success with women, I am sure that you know what I mean. Don't you?

Full disclosure: Yes I am married as well, and I love my wife, and yet I play the field. It's a story for another long post.