Creating good relationships with males

Tenmagnet · 2013-05-26T02:51:40+00:00

One thing with guy-guy relationships is that they're often kind of utilitarian. That is, guys tend to hang out with guys who provide value to their lives in some way or another, and it's often not just about having a close relationship.

It makes sense, since with women, there's always the possibility of romance that can bring you together, make her want to answer the phone, give you her number, etc. But for a guy, you need to have another angle. Making a guy laugh and then saying, "You seem like fun, let's grab a coffee sometime" doesn't work the way it does with women, for obvious reasons.

So the best advice I can give is to find something that guys want, and offer it to them. Things like shared interests, invitations to cool parties and scenes, or even game. So when you meet a dude, you "close" him by saying "Hey, me and my buddies have a pick-up hockey game on wed, you should come out", and invite him out to that (if he plays hockey).

Game is another thing you can offer guys that they really appreciate. If you're out for a beer with some guys, and manage to chat up some cute girls nearby and introduce them to your friends, you're providing massive value to your guy friends, and you can be sure that the next time they go out, they'll want to invite you along.

2013-05-27T02:01:14+00:00

Tip one: stop putting down your dad. Boo hoo he isn't this and that. so what he's still a man. don't complain, be more respectful of him and every other male you encounter.

Just share yourself honestly with teh guys you meet. they're still people, so be intersted in them. be proud of who you are, and find other role models. Creating good friendships with males is very rewarding and important. You need to have friends you relate to.

Decipede · 2013-05-26T03:11:22+00:00

The general rule is to find common ground and shared interests. This serves as foundation for subjects to talk about, it's also a great starting point with building good rapport. It just goes from there and you will be on a basis of exchanging more personal stuff. I'm not sure if you mean strong bond on a romantic and sexual level, or just on a friend level so ill keep my advice general. Also about your dad, any advice he offers you will end you up like him. Use him as a template for 'what not to do'.

jbg89 · 2013-05-26T03:22:25+00:00

Don't be a dick, asshole, douchebag, etc.
Be funny.
Don't be afraid to be friendly or nice from time to time but don't overdo it.

BroccoBaba · 2013-05-26T09:38:55+00:00

mutual interest. Join a sports club, a hobby, or just meet your local the Game folks. When you have a mutual interest, friendship seems to come easily.

crazy_fly · 2013-05-26T16:52:22+00:00

Thank you for the advice!

I'm NOT gay, it's just that I recently became aware of a certain pattern I have. It's easier for me to bond with girls. I am more open with girls. My relationship with my father (he is slightly unstable to say the least) has influenced me in a real negative way. I have difficulty trusting and opening myself with men.

This is something I want to change.

I have developed a lot over the past few years and I am constantly seeking to challenge myself to become the person I want to be. So again, thank you so much for all the advice!

ThrowawayPUA · 2013-05-26T02:18:05+00:00

I never saw the point of male bonding. I have almost exclusively female friends.

Title	Creating good relationships with males
Author	crazy_fly
Upvotes	11
Comments	10
Date	May 26, 2013 12:23 AM UTC (13 years ago)
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