Is there a link or post explaining this? On first dates I like to pay for the coffee unless my date insists on paying for both or hers only. If it's drinks then I let the girl know I'll pay for the first round, and if she wants to go for a second round then she can get the next one. After that any following dates I'll tell the girl that we can split the bill on whatever we are doing (mini golf, dinner, etc.). What do you guys do? Do you do things differently on first dates and the following dates when it comes to pay? And how do you go about it in mentioning it to your date?