I've recently had my biggest successes in daygame; sleeping with my first girl from DG, and also sleeping with another girl from tinder one the same night, on top of that I got my first lay from night-game a week before this. But lately Ive been in a slump and had trouble accepting this.. Bad efforts and results in daygame the last week or two, but today I felt it shifted cause of perspective and mindset-change.

Mindset that made it work:

Nothing to win, nothing to lose.

So much resistance and anxiety before focusing, and REALLY convincing myself this is "now" my ONE truth - like my wing elegantly said; if there is one thing certain in your life, fully believe this is the one (for today).

Basicly I can have massive tendencies towards overthinking and complacitung thinks, but this 'nihillistic' mindset helped a fucking lot - I believe it made me not to only take action and open girls, but to be at ease with myself and fully accept and embrace congruency (being OKAY with feeling shit, be it and do it anyway).

I decided to turn off the recording, my thought was not caring for the future and only focusing here and now and embracing my feelings/thoughts "holding me back".. Also if the girl can see the screen its obvious I'm recording, iphone showcases it with a big red recording bar on top, and I've lost a girl due to this before hahah. Forgetting that my progress and effort is "worse" then just a week before, stop caring, focus now.

Waiting girl on train station

Short interaction. Made me feel good for taking action, after not doing shit for 15 min. Walking around paralyzed whilst my wing were doing good, feels shit.

I wanna start counting girls I let walk pass me, cause ultimately these are the one I want, and tend to avoid or 'give to wing'.

Girl in shopping mall

Hesitated for a few meters, but I fucking went for it, one success point for me :) I focused in my mind: "nothing to win/lose." - then I tapped her on the shoulder. The interaction went well and I was not trying to act cool but embracing and sometimes acknowledging it to the girl that I was feeling nervous/awkward, while showing my intent confidently (I think you are cute and I wanna chat). I felt it was good, it was very real and genuine from my part, and I felt her mirroring this, telling what I did and liked to do (looking for a job, drawing as hobby) - and I noticed she got hooked and started investing more, asking me more personal questions.

Time-challenge with wing, fail, 5 pushups in the middle of the mall, embarresing but always realizing people rly dont care that much and I survive and its actually just fun.

Opened a girl looking at the mall-map

Found out my wing opened her before, she said "Yeah, ur the 2th guy today" and started walking, I tried keeping her by responding to it. Could have been more self amused or sumthing.

Till next time:

  • Count how many “my kind of" attractive girls you don’t open
  • Mindset: Nothing to win, nothing to lose
  • Warm-up: ASAP, just open man, you know the truth, get it overwith fast and avoid torturing yourself, be gentle.