So, this isn’t the most exciting field report, but I’ve run across a few issues that I wanted to run by everyone.

Basically, I spent a few hours out today at the park and a couple of coffee places looking to make cold approaches. There weren’t anywhere near as many opportunities as I would have thought, but a lot of that is my fault because I’m still waiting around for ideal circumstances.

At the park, there was one very pretty girl with a dog. I thought at first she was with a guy, but when I saw her later on her own I decided to take a chance in case I’d misread things. She was my one true approach for the day. I walked up, and said something like “hey, you’re so pretty I just had to say hi.” I don’t remember my exact words.

She wasn’t exactly unreceptive, and said nothing about a boyfriend. But I think I really botched whatever chance I had. You see, her dog quickly took over the whole interchange. It was friendly enough, and I said hello because I love dogs…but then it started barking at me. I wasn’t afraid or anything, but it took up a lot of our attention. She apologized and tried to get her to quiet down, and I knelt down to show the dog that I wasn’t going to be a physical threat.

The girl said the dog was “still getting used to this part.” I asked how old she was, which was six months. I told her I have a nine year old boxer. I asked the dog’s name, which was Kasha, and I asked if it was Russian hoping to hit upon some interesting story that way. But the name doesn’t mean anything.

Somehow we got to talk about the dog swimming, and how she wants to teach it to swim. I said that my dog is afraid of water, and apparently Kasha is too. It was a little smiley moment of shared experience. But then the girl said she had to take the dog…I think somewhere to get water, I don’t remember. For some reason in the moment I took this as an implicit rejection, since she seemed to be ending the interaction, and I didn’t even go for the number.

Thirty seconds later, I was ashamed of letting her go without officially trying. I soon realized that, although I’d asked for the dog’s name, I had neglected to mention my own— or ask the girl hers! I had done very little to move things forward, or engage on either an emotional or sexual level. I had barely discussed the girl or myself. I don’t know if she was very receptive at the start, or just being polite, but I think I had some kind of chance, and threw it away.

It wouldn’t be so bad if I’d talked to more girls, but I failed to find anyone who I was comfortable approaching. Again, this is my fault. First, there were a few girls by themselves who were only borderline attractive. I should have talked to them if only for the experience, but wasn’t quite motivated enough, and even felt a little guilty about it. I came close with one, but her little dog ran over when I was a few yards away and humped my leg! I was so freaked out by this that I forgot my initial intentions.

I was going to approach a very hot girl sunning herself in a bikini. As I got close, however, she turned to someone in a car and shouted “I’ll be a few minutes!” I thought in the moment it was a guy (presumably a boyfriend), and veered off conspicuously. It may have been a female friend, I couldn’t really see. But I thought I’d looked weird turning away like that, and since there was someone hidden in that car watching the girl too, I didn’t like the feeling of chatting her up in front of them.

There was a girl in headphones at a coffeehouse. I don’t know what the social expectations really are, but I thought it might be ill advised to interrupt. Plus she might not even hear me at first, which is slightly awkward. What do you think about headphones?

There were a couple of girls in masks, and they make me uncomfortable too. First, because I can’t be sure what they look like, and then because I assume they’re less open to being approached in general. It seems to signal caution. What do you think about approaching girls in masks?

Mainly, though, and almost in every case—girls were in pairs or trios (if not already with guys). I am still intimidated by this. Getting over group approach anxiety will open up many opportunities. I have talked to pairs at night, but daygame feels different. The expectations are different…I don’t know how to ultimately isolate, like in a club, and I feel like they may be more protective of each other. Plus, how do you ask for a number without embarrassing the others? How and when do you choose, if they give you a choice? What happens, especially, when there are only two of them?

I’ve been reading about group approaches, but haven’t found much about daygame specifically. So, am I right that it’s different? How should it be handled? There are so few opportunities of solo attractive girls, either day or night. It seems that groups are crucial in order to get the number of approaches up high enough to be worth the time.