Hi Guys. 35yo male from south of Spain here. So, I can't complain womenwise, I've been with around 30 different women throughout my life. Most of them very pretty and interesting women.

Nevertheless, I always thought I could have approached and gotten many more women that I have in my life if I hadn't pussied out in many ocassions and also if I learned more seduction skills.

I consider myself quite attractive and many of my girlfriends say I'm quite a Casanova, well, it depends on the situation. If it is a situation I have in control with a girl that I feel more or less attracted to, yes. But if it's a girl a really really feel attracted to...I shit my pants.

I decided to take this seriously. To face my demons, to take courage and get out of my confort zone. Life is very short, I'm already 35 and I want to enjoy it to the top in all ways, and that includes women.

I have my own business doing something I love, I work around 5-6 hours a day and the rest of the day I just do whatever I feel like doing. That includes playing flamenco guitar, practicing Yoga, eating healthy etc.

So, I read "MODELS". Great book! Some of the things / skills I read I already have them naturally, many other I don't. Now I have started reading "The Mystery method", very interesting indeed. I am taking notes on my computer and studying the philosophy and strategies behind the art of seduction.

As we all know, theory is good, but practice makes the master. So I decided to start practicing even though I still have quite a lot of theory to learn.

Anyways, I have started with the 30 day cold approach challenge. And let me tell you, it is more difficult than I thought. You really need the balls to approach a women at midday in the middle of the street.

I'm keeping a LOG so I can learn from my mistakes and note down everything that could be of use.

Day 1.

I was taking some money out from the ATM and saw a really attractive 22-24 yo girl walking with 2 friends. When she walked pass me I told her:

  • Excuse me...I just wanted to tell you that I find you really attractive

She replied

  • Thank you!

And off she left with her friends laughing. Shhhit I felt my heart beating as hard as a hammer! What an adrenaline pump! I didn't have the guts to keep the conversation going but anyway...it was something. My first approach.

Day 2.

That was today. I set my objective of the day: 2 cold approaches. The first one happened again in the middle of a busy street. A beautiful 22-24yo that looked kind of Rumanian / Bulgarian or somewhere from the east of Europe. I approached her and said with a really shy voice and unnatural pauses:

  • Excuse me...I'm sorry to bother you....in the middle of the street but I just had to speak with you...

She replied: - Why do you need to talk to me? Me - Because I find you very interesting. Her - Oh...yeah...ok...but my brother is waiting I'm sorry. Me - I'm sorry, I didn't want to scare you off by talking to you in the middle of the street. Her - Oh....nono...don't worry...it's just my brother, he is waiting for me. Me - Ok bye... Her - Bye!

So, things that I learned from this interaction. I need to learn to be more direct and no apologies. But of course, I was really nervous so it is normal. With time I think this will improve.

The second cold approach went....uumm....quite bad: I tried to change my cold approach tactic by saying one of these pre-learned openers: "Excuse me...are you from here? Can you help find....your telephone number" I read this somewhere online and decided to use it...here is what happenned:

I was in the city centre (I live there), busy street and saw a really attractive 30yo woman on the other side of the street. I crossed the street and asked her:

  • Excuse me...are you from here? Her - Yes I am! Me - Great! Listen, I'm looking for...

I turned my head away as if I was looking for something, and then turned my head towards her, deepened my voice, tried to sound sexy and said:

  • Your phone number...

God, you should have seen her face...she opened her eyes with terror turned around and left quite in a hurry...I kept standing there feeling like a fucking stalker...shit...I was paralysed...hoping nobody around had heard me... I left quickly and started laughing at the whole situation. I tried to sound sexy but I sounded like a complete psycho! hahaha....

Anyway, I learned that there is a very thin line between sounding cool and chilled and total awkwardness. Tomorrow I'll do 2 more cold approaches but I think I'll just go a little more natural until I make some progress and feel more confortable with rejection and showing vulnerability. I'll probably just say "Hello, I find you very interesting so I came to say hi" or something like this.

Any comments, tips are appreciated. I hope this is the right place to post this as I think that my experience as a newbie could help everyone.

Cheers