Thanks to this community I have enhanced almost everything in my life. It feels great to say I am happy with who I am. I am to the point where I have good friends, past successful relationships and many opportunities for more. This is amazing and all, but now a new problem has risen.

I am on a friendly basis with a few girls that I would like to reach a more deeper relationship with. I am very familiar with the advice normally given and I feel that I am a pretty attractive guy all around, thats not the problem. I can flirt and be funny and escalate well, but I realized whats lacking is actual connections. I'm all physical (Heavy kino is natural to me) and most of my relationships were all about sex.

I want to be able to have deep conversations with girls and guys, I want to trigger their emotions and have a real connection on something with someone else. How can I go from friendly conversation to something that actually matters?

At this point simple subjects or questions you guys can think of to just throw out there would be a good start. Is this just a skill that isn't learned?