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[–]Great at coke approachSnooHesitations4922 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It's easy to overlook how simple meeting a woman for a fling actually is. The internet is full of tactics, gambits, flimflams and bamboozles, none of which u need. If you see someone you like, introduce yourself, ask her to hang out. You will surprise yourself at the results.. You instantly get your answear to whether she is interested or not, making it easier to move onto the next one without ur mind being cluttered with questioning yourself Your an older athletic guy, you shouldn't have a problem getting with younger women who haven't ruined themselves yet, let yourself be their first big mistake. You don't want women your own age because u will learn the hard way why they are still single, even if it's just a fling damaged goods will always find a way to make u pay.
[–]Reality-Dizzy 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow! I've never heard this point of view. There are women out there looking for guys my age? Where does one go to find these women?
I typically don't find myself running into very many people except that the grocery store etc.
[–]Great at coke approachSnooHesitations4922 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There is no such a thing as an inappropriate place to meet women. They can meet men anywhere, so anybody that says "this place or that setting is inappropriate is either a hippocrit or is socially brainwashed. Just got to be smart about the situation, if ur at church be respectful, if your at the bar be a sarcastic ass. I like just walking around my neighborhood,, we got some parks and landmarks, I just look for open signals from women then approach, I will ask about her dog or even ask for directions I don't actually need,, anything innocent until she seems comfortable with flirting.. Remember men's value increases with age as he earns it because they weren't born with it, women are born high value living on recruit difficulty and they lose it with age. I remember in my 20s EVERY girl not exclusive with somebody had older men in their dating rotation.
[–]5_7pickup 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
There are 3 avenues to dating. OLD, cold approach, or social circle game.
It seems you’ve ruled out OLD already. So youre left with social circle and cold approach.
Based on what youre looking for, cold approach is most suited for you. Go do some googling on pickup/cold approach. I recommend todd v on youtube if you wanna learn pickup. You can also read my field reports. Through cold approach, ive slept with dozens of girls in the last 13 months. Currently have 2 active FWBs.
[–]Top_Client9752 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You should be able to find this on the apps. Just be up front about what you’re after. The trick with the apps is to have a really slick profile with professional quality photos. Find someone who specialises in Tinder profile for men and enlist their help. It’s a science!
In terms of meeting women in real life: attend meet ups, join social clubs, communities, attend workshops etc that are likely to attract people with the values you seek. Sex-positive communities like Tantra workshops and the like are worth exploring, just be sure to be respectful and socialise with everyone so you don’t come across as a predator.
If you’re feeling a bit rusty on dating, I’ve written a bunch of articles aimed at mature age men who find themselves back on the dating scene after long term relationships end. You can find them here.
If you’re interested in improving your game in the bedroom, this series might help too.
Good luck!
Edit: typos
[–]rumsticks -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
First thing would be to break up with your girlfriend..
[–]Reality-Dizzy 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Need to have a girlfriend to break up with her first...
[–]rumsticks 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Apologies didn’t read it properly.
Suggest you get down the gym, get some new clothes and work on yourself first.
[–]Reality-Dizzy 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I took that advice 3 years ago and I'm in the best shape of my life with abs and everything.
As far as clothes that is probably a good idea. I don't know a lot about fashion.
[–]rumsticks 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Fair. Look at some of your favourite actors and musicians and see what they wear in pictures and try and replicate it.
[–]underTheRadarGuy 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Quickest route for you might be singles meetup groups for folks in your age range.
Nights out at least twice a week at different venues/bars with a wingman would help as well. The nice steak houses with good bars were the hotter scene for the attractive 40+ crowd from my experience. Can hit those solo too.
If you have lower standards, Kik groups can be a good option. If you have any Home Depot runs, women can be more assertive in showing interest there.
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