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[–]Butter-85 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If I were you, I wouldn’t say anything about it… because I don’t want to hear the answer. I think you need to honest with yourself about why you want any details - are you really just curious and interested in talking about sex with other partners? Or are you hoping she will say it was bad, you were better, etc? The latter is a big risk and you need to be prepared for an answer you might not like.
[–]ExpendableUnit123 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
No no, I don’t want any details. Alright, think of it like this:
“He was a cool guy”
“Did you have a good night?” (Or) “Nice. What are you up to today?”
Like, to me, both of those phrases either seem too simpy, or too abrasive. So I’m just asking for theory crafting the right tone of response more than anything.
To be clear, she can do what she wants, obviously. We’re not together, or even talking really. Just hooked up once and texted a bit after. I just want to look cool and contained without feeling walked over if something like this occurs.
[–]CompetitionFair7686 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Lol dude. It’s none of your business what she does with the other guy. Just don’t talk about that. Don’t bring it up. If she brings it up, change topics.
[–]ExpendableUnit123 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This is what I needed to hear. Thanks!
[–]Separate_Taste3428 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Drop her
[–]immrdadguy 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Who is this woman to you bro ?
Sorry should have mentioned. No one really. Someone I met at an event and brought home, but because I’m recently out of a LTR, said she wanted to wait 3-4 months and see how I feel then. Which is fine.
But then still texts me every day. So for me the signals being mixed. Truth is I shouldn’t give a shit and it’s ridiculous that I do, but I do.
[–]Confidenceisbetter 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This whole thing is confusing. Who is she to you? Why do you know she’s planning to have sex with someone else? Why are you okay with it? And why is there even a nudist couchsurfer? I feel like you live in a completely different universe than me.
No one. We’re nothing. She can sleep with who she wants. My question is how do I play it off in a non-caring way if it gets brought up.
[–]runaround_fruitcop 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Is she your girlfriend? If she has no obligation to only sleep with you then you have absolutely 0 say in who or when or how she has consenting sex with
Unless you're poly and have an agreement. If you cannot commit to a woman then you can never expect her to commit to you
So, more info is needed on what yalls dynamic actually is
No I’m not saying I have a problem, with her doing it. We’re not together. Just how do I play it off like I don’t care IF it’s brought up?
[–]runaround_fruitcop 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Why would it be brought up? Like who brings up casual hooking up in everyday conversations unless you ask? Almost never do I talk to the opposite sex about my sexual pursuits because it's weird.
If she's doing that then idk. I personally don't like people who go around discussing their sexual exploits to me. So I usually ask them to consider my feelings because it makes me uneasy.
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