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[–][deleted] 6 points7 points8 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Attractiveness helps you to be seen as attractive, yes. No one would doubt that. But attractiveness does not determine how you come across socially.
if any old guy that she doesn’t necessarily think is attractive walks up to her and says something bold, she will probably think it’s weird or creepy.
If he has a good vibe and social intelligence she will find it funny, but still be not attracted. But she will not find it weird or creepy.
However, if she thinks you’re attractive, will being bold not be creepy but actually something she wants you to say?
If your vibe and social intelligence is bad, no attractiveness will help you, you will still be seen as creepy/weird.
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How do you get a good vibe? I need vibes man
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[–]ApprehensiveAd850 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
☝🏿 these are all ways to increase your positive hormones
[–]ApprehensiveAd850 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Learn about the science of happiness aka “hormones “ hormone levels are the literal definition of vibes… if you learn how to maximize your natural serotonin and oxytocin levels you will radiate confidence and trustworthiness that people will feel when you walk into a room and be drawn toward you. THESE ARE BIOLOGICAL FACTS!!!! Not opinions or something you need to believe in to work. Google “inner mammal institute “ it’s all about what our hormones are responsible for in nature.
[–]Bake_Pretend 12 points13 points14 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If you’re attractive , almost anything u say/do (within reasonable limit ofc ) will work
[–][deleted] 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Okay yes. But additionally, would you say that what would help even more than being attractive to her is also being not nervous when you do whatever bold thing you’re doing? I feel like, not necessarily for all women, that if you’re nervous in your delivery, it kinda fucks everything up.
[–]Bake_Pretend 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah confidence is a big factor for sure. I was tryna say if you’re attractive and game is meh , it works in most situations. Whereas if you’re not attractive , girls probably won’t give u a chance to even show ur game , in a lot of situations
[–]peduxe 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Exactly it'll be seen in a good light because she already laughts at anything said but how you follow up is where you act.
If I come off as too offensive for no reason I'll always procced to say "just kidding". Grab her, caress her and tell you're sorry, that's it.
If she did something I didn't fuck with I won't hold back on the boldness.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are thinking about what the woman is thinking. You can't think for two people. People can barely think for themselves nevermind two people.
[–]Sure-Wish3240 5 points6 points7 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a girl feels attracted to you, you just passed rule number 1. The only thing you can achieve being bold is breaking rule number 2.
Its not rocket science.
She looks at you, you look back and smile. She smiles back at you. You approach, say hi my name is Chad and you are...?
In Portuguese we say: Olhou, sorriu, mandioca no Bombril.
From there on all you have to do is behave like a remotely decent human being and keep sending the non verbal signs of your interest.
Eventually you will get laid.
Dont be a creep, Don't blow your good looks with bad talking skills.
Be casual, be normal, but keep your body signaling you want her. Dont look at other girls while chatting, take a couple of moments to ckeck her assets and when she caughts you staring a her lips tits or ass act shy and return to casual.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If a woman is attracted to you, yes you can be bold and assertive. That’s expected.
[–]DrinksAreOnTheHouse 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Attractiveness only opens the door and gives you some flexibility to make mistakes. From there, True inner game of a purpose driven man makes the difference.
[–]Top-Appointment-5539 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Since a girl finds you attractive, a lot of the time you don’t really have to do much work. It’s suggest keeping it player, joke and tease her a lil bit, and don’t show too much availability.
[–]Superb-End6273 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok, you just confused me. Shouldn't the girls who are interested in you(because they think you're attractive) be easier to pull? But, it seems your overthinking this side of things too. Listen, the fact that you asked the question about being bold tells me that you're not a bold individual so that is something you have to fix within yourself. You have to become bold in your everyday life not just with women. Anyways, I think there is something that is unclear to you and I will help clear this up.
Now as we men know a women's looks and a women's body attract us to them. But for women its a slight difference because they are attracted by what they hear which is why talking to a woman is essential(for her especially) before hooking up because if women and men were both attracted by looks trust me the world would be a different place. Anyways, back on topic... as a man you need to understand the power of your voice(mouthpiece) because that is what draws a woman in, that is what makes her feel that energy from you, that is what has the ability to turn her on and it can create the same effect on her as a woman's beauty would have on a thirsty male.
I'm not gonna get to deep into this so all I will say is to stop worrying about what to say. As long as you have some base in your voice, you can slow your words down, and articulate your words you can literally talk about anything(and your voice will attract her to you). Now there are certain times when your words do matter more than others but when it comes to simple comfort building it really doesn't matter.
[–]texaspete3 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Looks, and attractiveness are completly different here.
If she is attracted to you then be bold. If you are handsome don't be bold.
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