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dobbs1997 · 2022-08-15T13:52:04+00:00

the problem is you’re listening to this narrative you’ve heard other people talk about instead of listening to your OWN narrative, meaning doing you, doing what you wanna do, on the first date you should be flirting and doing all that & seeing if she reciprocates. She probably liked you but because you decided to be fake and put on an act instead of being your authentic self, that’s what made you miss that window. Stop being fake.

hookedonfonicsmunky · 2022-08-15T14:28:49+00:00

i've learned the hard way, i've had a decent amount of girls stop talking to me and said the same shit "im not feeling the chemistry" bullshit, so you know what i did? i went from being play it slow and don't get too touchy to, a little complimenting and touching from the beginning and just building off that from how she responds, cuz let's be honest girls want it just as bad as guys, so you have to make moves ASAP before someone else does

appmanga · 2022-08-15T13:12:25+00:00

How long is appropriate to start initiating some touch here and there?

You start as soon as you can. This isn't "sexual" touching; it's simple contact. I've done things as silly as early on asking to read her palm. You can gently brush "something" off of her arm. Don't be self-conscious about doing these things, but also don't be the bull in the china shop.

she says “You didn’t escalate physically so you must not really be attracted to me if you don’t touch me”

Has a woman ever said anything like this to you?

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-15T15:55:42+00:00

I don’t any contradiction.

Women don’t like it when you ONLY want sex. ONLY is the key word here. They are not saying they don’t like guys who want sex. They are saying they don’t like it when guys ONLY want sex.

That means they like sex, they just don’t like it when that’s all you want, because they want sex and also something more (a relationship).

So i don’t know why you interpret that as “don’t get sexual and touchy”. It’s perfectly fine to get sexual and touchy provided you are giving them real hope that doing so, or having sex, could lead into a relationship.

They just don’t like it when you pretend to give them hope that it could lead into a relationship when in fact, you were lying and were never gonna give them a chance to have something serious.

Like you were just exciting her and giving her false hopes to get sex and once she does it you leave her.

It just seems like you don’t know how to listen.

texaspete3 · 2022-08-20T17:40:42+00:00

who the fuck said don't be sexual. our only purpose in life as men is to find women and continue the human race through sex. Everything is sex , and everyone wants sex.

I touch in the middle of a good conversation. Lets say we are really engaged in a free flowing conversation over coffee. i will say can i see your hand and just hold her hand while i look in her eyes in drink coffee. You can touch right away, you can even have sex right away. There are no hard rules to this stuff . this is where microcalibration comes in . You have to find tune your senses to the vibe of the situation.

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