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[–]VorpalPaperclip 7 points8 points9 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If you left it open for her to contact you and she hasn’t, move on.
Please don’t do #1. That’s so weak! Ugh.
If she contacts you, ask her out otherwise you really wont ever know what happened and just be ok with that.
[–]BruddaRed 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Do your thing for the next two weeks like you said, she'll reach out if she wants to. Hit her up when you're back in town and invite her to join you for a fun activity.
You place too much thought on trying not to make her feel uncomfortable. I guarantee you that she wants you to be confident and assertive in your decisions, as most women do. If you get her back at your place again in the future, any girl for that matter, just keep moving things forward assuming that's what she wants too. Only stop if she tells you to do so, don't ask her if she wants you to stop. Don't confuse my words, no certainly means no, but at the same time women like an assertive man that isn't afraid to express his interest sexually.
When you first start dating, be her lover. Only after that, can you be her provider as well.
[–]ConstantineBarca1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I agree that I should’ve been more assertive and dominant. I rarely act like this with other women, but I couldn’t quite figure her out, so I acted weak and lost control. I definitely will be wiser moving forward. Lesson learned
[–]kawasakizx7rMonster 4 points5 points6 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Sounds as though may have put her on a pedestal. And have been initiating contacting her way too much. Have big feelings for her. Yet have not had sexual relations enough with her to become so close, if get my point.
(She also apologized and stated that she just thinks she wasn’t ready to have sex that night) Could be combination this and both picked up on it, awkward. Which is fair enough. Nothing to feel ashamed about.
Seems this woman previous sexual preference probably put on spot more so than normal. Don't sweat it man. I wouldn't get in contact with her. Wait for her to reach out to you for sure.
[–]ConstantineBarca2 points 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I respect the feedback. Gonna go on with my life as normal.
[–]AngeloMacon 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Oh boy, you need to get your heart broken a couple times. I guess this is going to be one of those times.
She is most likely not interested. And the small chance that she is, it will only work out if you stop being needy. Stop texting her and looking at her social media. If she reaches out, great, just dial back the emotional stuff. But expect to be ghosted.
I wouldn’t necessarily say I’m heartbroken, more just confused about what went wrong. I appreciate the insight though and I definitely am gonna learn from my mistakes and just walk away. I definitely understand where I went wrong now from the advice here and just thinking about things in general
[–]Thin_Protection5616 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
A woman or someone with exceptionally high estrogen wrote this
Dude can you either give advice or piss off?
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