Hey all,

One thing I’ve noticed when browsing this sub is how often the same questions and situations keep coming up. I’m going to tackle some of the ones I see most often.

  1. Virginity

Yes you’re a virgin at 21-26, guess what? No one cares. You hyper focusing on it isn’t doing you any favours. Have you gone out of your way to actually try to correct this by talking to women? Or have you been sitting idly by feeling sorry for yourself? It’s time to snap out of the pity party and focus on other things. Most women won’t care if you’re a virgin as long as everything else about you is attractive to her. There’s some shallow women that will care, but you aren’t after those women anyway. So stop fixating on this all day and night. When you lose your V card you’re still going to be the same person. You won’t miraculously change into this perfect version of yourself. For a lot of people there first time is quite uneventful. I can relate to that.

  1. Maxing out your attractiveness

When’s the last time you have honestly gone out and purchased a new wardrobe? That means new shoes, shirts that fit you well, fresh pants, and an overall aesthetic that’s coherent. No wrinkles in the clothing, no stains, and NO baggy clothing. On top of that how long have you been working out? Women like men in shape, there’s no getting around this. This is human nature. It’s the same way we like curvy and in shape women. It shows them that you care about your body and are able to dedicate time and effort to achieve something. 6 months minimum is required before seeing results. Start today, it’s night and day how women treat men that are in shape. You don’t need to get shredded, but if you’re underweight, put on muscle. If you’re overweight burn off some fat and replace with muscle. You will go from cute/handsome to hot/sexy based on how in shape you’re. Get a haircut. Find a hairstyle that suits you and have facial hair that matches that. Overall look put together. Like you actually give a shit about how you look. You should leave your place thinking I look fresh as hell.

  1. How do I approach/ What do I say

Just start approach and talking to women. Period. This is a skill like any other. You can read as much books or posts on Reddit, but at the end of the day you need to take action. You will fail and that’s okay. Don’t take it personally, there’s a thousand reasons why she said no and many of which have nothing to do with you. No girl is going to fall into your lap. It’s better to swing and miss then never even step up to the plate. Understand that what you say is roughly only 20% of what women pick up on when talking to you. The other 80% is body language, tone, and overall confidence. The best line in the world means nothing without having a good delivery that you believe in. That means hands at your sides, chest out, eye contact, a smile, and a good relaxed tone to tie it altogether. Most guys that I see approach, do so very timidly or with a lack of confidence. Women mirror how you approach. If you’re insecure, she will react as though you’re insecure and brush you off. If you think you’ll be rejected, they will reject you. When you approach, assume attraction and talk to them as if you’ve known them your whole life. Go in thinking “Will I like this girl?”. Don’t go in with “I hope she likes me”. The first gives the intent that she should be looking for your approval. The latter is you want something from her, which can come off as needy and insecure. Nothing makes women run faster then those two feelings.

  1. Where do I meet women?

EVERYWHERE. If you’re asking this question you aren’t actually looking hard enough. Have you honesty ventured to any bars, clubs, parties, festivals, meetups, sports, or literally anything else that requires more then one person? Stop asking questions to things you already know the answer for. No, there’s not a lot of women that hang out near your house that are ready to flirt with you. You need to get out and explore your city more. You can do this with friends or alone. Either is fine. Stop making excuses.

  1. FOR THE LOVE OF GOD YOU AREN’T THAT UGLY!!

This will be the last point I tackle for this post. This one irks me the most. The amount of you that think you’re unattractive to the point of nauseam is insane. Many and most of you are average or even slightly above and that’s fine. Your parents found each other and you will find someone too. No one cares that you didn’t do well in high school, no one cares you haven’t slept with any women, no one cares if no girl has approached you. Put all of those things in the past. It’s time to forget that stuff and move past it. It’ll just hurt you and tear you down. When you approach a women for the first time they know nothing about any of that. You guys need to just accept your looks and love yourself for your own mental health. Lack of sexual partners, make outs, and relationships don’t correlate always to how attractive you are. There’s good looking guys out there that just have zero confidence. I have a close friend of mine that could slay with women, but he just doesn’t have the social skills to do anything. It’s depressing. I’ve seen women throw themselves at him and he just stands there like a bump on a log. At the end of the day no amount of complaining is going to fix this. Life’s unfair. There will be better looking guys then you out there. Accept that now and get past it. Most women would rather party with a 6/10 with a great sense of humour and charm then a 9/10 that’s boring as a stick. The main benefits good looking men get is more fuckups before they get shut down. Women have been battling with body dysmorphia for a long time due to media. It’s starting to hit the new generation of men now more then it has ever before. I mean how does one compete with the likes of Ryan Gosling, Chris Hemsworth, and Zac Efron? You’re better looking then you think my friend. It’s time you start owning that!

Hope any of this helped any of you. Lately I’ve just been seeing a echo chamber of these questions in particular. Hoping this answers some of those questions.