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[–]CompetitionFair7686 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Oh yeah, of course the first topic you should talk with a girl you just met is sexual topics. Going from 0 to 100 real quick is the way to go
[–]Acid_In_My_Eyes 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
its just a question!
[–]nuc1earwessels 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Assuming OP is a man, I do agree that it is generally best practice to let the girl bring up explicitly sexual topics first. Any time I tried it never went well haha. If you ask her about sex before you've kissed her you've effectively shot yourself in the foot. A girl might tell you what she likes in bed before you kiss though. Why is it like that? Cause girls choose when to have sex.
u/Acid_In_My_Eyes, you do have the power to escalate early on physically (like sitting close), strong eye contact, or by gentle teasing/joking. And taking her verbal and non-verbal cues on whether or not to continue. But wait for her to ask what you like in bed. And once she does, that means she wants to have sex with you. Just let the sexual conversation flow naturally into the bedroom ;).
[–]Acid_In_My_Eyes 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
i guess i mean sexual conversation that is more light than directly about sex but thanks i like what u said
[–]nuc1earwessels 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Even then, avoid it. Bringing up sex too soon is the easiest way to label yourself a creep in her eyes. No matter how much she likes you before hand. Trust me bro, I speak from painful experience.
The idea of sex should all be subtextual until you are in bed with her.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
ask them what do women in their town put behind their ears to attract men?
[–]Acid_In_My_Eyes 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
money?
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Nope
[–]Acid_In_My_Eyes 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
bacon?
[–]CocoBabeNYC 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Not bad, but still wrong.
[–]Acid_In_My_Eyes 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
ok
[–]DeliberatelyInsane 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Creed Aventus?
[–]CocoBabeNYC 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Their legs/ankles
[–]Allaiyah 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ok this is really subtle stuff, homie. Like not the easiest thing to convey over text. But here goes.
I'd honestly just try to focus on being fun and playful, don't fixate on certain topics and don't jump right into talking about sex.
It's good to flirt and tease, and if you can establish some man to woman context. Overall though don't come on too strong. It's good to establish yourself as a flirty person, but better to keep them guessing as to whether or not youre trying to get with them.
So to answer your question: At some point in the conversation I usually bring up what I'm looking for in people. Like, these are the kinds of relationships I'm looking for. I usually establish that I'm looking for something casual and I describe how I usually navigate relationships and what I look for in a person and what I look for sexually. But I don't dwell on it and I try to be as casual as possible about it as if I'm telling a friend. I also don't explicitly say that I'm looking to them to fill this role. I'm basically using it as an opportunity to describe myself and who I am in relationships.
At this point you can ask them what they're looking for. This opens up space for conversations, surrounding relationships and sex and past experiences etc.
Hope that's helpful.
[–]malwaysfuckn 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
if you were a type of pasta which type would you be and why.
it’s silly but also kinda makes you stop & really think about it… and there’s no wrong answer,‘obviously. it’s more about the “why” which gives some the opportunity to tell you something about them they want you to know about their personality or something less tangible. it’s fun. :)
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