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2022-04-24T15:02:31+00:00

Think of it as practice. That fact your putting yourself out there is already a win - well done ! Try to ask open questions, if they do the talking and then you make them feel like they are interesting / entertaining- that’s a good start. Think over your life - consider stories from your life that are funny / interesting..but also demonstrate some of your achievements or good qualities . Don’t force them into the conversation- but taking some time to think about these things beforehand will make them fresh in your memory. You can even save notes in your phone for a reminder when you go to the bathroom if needs be

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-04-24T15:14:46+00:00

Don’t fall into logical conversations.

Your conversation should be playful, funny, tease her, make funny guesses, make playful accusations, create a playful vibe, create a little bit of drama as a joke, challenge her, roast her…

Don’t be like: “so what do you do for a living” oh i’m a journalist and you?, a nurse? oh you like it? Sure, so how come you study journalism” well i always liked being informed about the world, so i figure why not inform other people myself… Interesting, so why you study nurse,…

Like don’t have dull conversations like that for the love of god try to inject humour somehow, and tease her and be playful and fun…

And don’t try to impress her, don’t try to prove your worth to her, a date is not about proving you are good enough to the girl. So don’t go there thinking “oh i must show her all the reasons why she must choose me” don’t go with that mentality.

IceComprehensive6440 · 2022-04-24T14:33:51+00:00

What are you guys doing on the date? Also stay chill. Nobody falls in love after one date despite what Hollywood tells you so even if it’s not perfect it’s no big deal.

MO_drps_knwldg · 2022-04-24T15:04:39+00:00

Focus on just having fun and being in the moment.
Don’t imagine her as your future wife/girlfriend. No romantic fantasizing.
You aren’t there to impress her. You are there to have fun and see if you like her as well.
Ask open-ended questions that can’t be answered with a yes or no response (Who, What, when, where, why questions) Just don’t turn in into an interview, women hate that. Ask her about things you’re genuinely interested in. Add some of your own experiences and thoughts.
Be a gentleman, hold doors, but don’t make a big deal out it.
Take care of as much details as possible so she can relax. Don’t put the planning of the date on her shoulders.

TL;DR: Have fun, be in the moment, don’t fantasize, ask open-ended questions to authentically learn about her

DoodoaX · 2022-04-24T15:07:33+00:00

Congratulations my friend.

You need to lead to date from start to finish. That means you do the escalating. Simple touching and see how she responds. If she’s about it, make an excuse, kiss her and then take it from there. Don’t worry about your surroundings. Trust me nobody will care.

Pay for the date.

Try not to tell her about your dating history.

Be yourself but also don’t be an open book on the first date. Let her imagination do the work for you.

Let her do most of the talking.

Make sure the date is near your place. If it’s going well, find an excuse to bring her back to yours. (Bottle of wine, video games etc)

Shower beforehand.

WASH YOUR GODDAMN BALLS.

Godspeed

caligrown_85 · 2022-04-24T14:21:26+00:00

1 Don’t be too hard on yourself

2 be yourself, don’t try hard being someone you are not

3 be present in the moment and enjoy yourself.

Edit idk why I am screaming with big letters

Psychological_Hunt24 · 2022-04-24T19:28:15+00:00

Maintain eye contact.

2022-04-24T14:47:55+00:00

Be yourself!

I’m a woman and I find that if someone is being themselves my guard goes down and I feel I can be myself (and connect with them). You also actually end up connecting on things you both truly have interest in.

Don’t put a lot of expectation on it. And don’t worry about sounding cool or like you have ‘game’ or whatever, if that’s naturally not what you are like it comes across as super cringey and forceful.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-04-24T16:28:33+00:00

Don't behave like this is your first date ever. That's the only advice I have.

heretolearnsth · 2022-04-24T14:05:26+00:00

Next week wil be my first date ever. I feel very nervous because I have 0 experience or plans.

bro planning upfront for one date one week later! come on!

pondboi111 · 2022-04-24T18:12:24+00:00

I used to have a shot for confidence before first dates. But generally just be yourself, speak about stuff you’re interested in. Find out what they’re interested in.

Zealousideal6669 · 2022-04-24T21:26:43+00:00

The first date without any experience is usually not the best way to start but you got a date somehow you be happy about that, a lot of guys never make it this far. So I suggest that don't expect anything big from yourself. You did those things before so yes you gonna be suck at it first like we all suck at anything we try for the first time. You gonna be nervous, probably she gonna be too so be too dumb to fail, don't care about any result, you gonna mess things up, you gonna say and do wrong things and it's totally fine till you can learn from it. Just enjoy the moment for its own sake or just try it at least see how it goes, if you're at least can have fun together lucky things might happen if you dare to make moves and like to kiss the girl, so just have fun and tryna make moves if you got those things right its already a success

Secure_Bandicoot_662 · 2022-04-24T23:37:24+00:00

Always respect yourself & her. Enforce it harshly if necessary.

Shot-Passage-2544 · 2022-04-25T15:35:32+00:00

It’s your first one so expect to be nervous for the first few minutes. You’re exploring new territory so nervousness will be a natural response. It will go away the further into the date you go.

Get a haircut. Groom yourself as well as you know how. Wear what makes you feel most confident.

Aim up but aim low. It most likely won’t end in sex. Maybe the goal is just to show up on time and talk with the person for 1hr. That’s fine. You get better with time.

Journal about the experience after if you can. What worked, what didn’t, what would you like to do differently next time.

Have fun. Life’s short

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1 Don’t be too hard on yourself

2 be yourself, don’t try hard being someone you are not

3 be present in the moment and enjoy yourself.