I've had dates where I didn't touch them at all, and it still lead to a second date.

Therocksays2020 · 2022-02-28T16:14:35+00:00

I think you have a small sample size. I don’t think anyone said you have to touch them on the first date but it’s usually helpful.

On first dates where I didn’t touch them I am significantly more likely to get the “didn’t feel a spark” text.

So no you shouldn’t just grab your date just because but if things are going well it generally won’t hurt and will also improve your outlook.

RSNK10 · 2022-02-28T16:23:04+00:00

You can’t escalate if you don’t touch her.

TheRiverOfDyx · 2022-02-28T22:44:00+00:00

These ones liked you despite not “doing the steps”. Great sign

Works for some, doesn’t work for others. Seduction is guidelines mostly

bcool_returns · 2022-02-28T18:11:16+00:00

OK? And did you sleep with any of those women?

There are people who take pride in not putting their personality on the line. Sure, maybe no one hates them. But no one loves them either. They are just tolerated.

No one who is good with women advocates going 0-100. But you need to engage her, including physically. Sure you might rack up a bunch of early dates. But it'll never go anywhere because you're not actually putting anything on the line. You are merely being tolerated.

This will always be the reality.

Captain_brownbeard · 2022-02-28T22:54:43+00:00

Touch, escalation etc is almost a must unless the other person is super into you. On dates I didn't escalate I normally get the "I don't see us going anywhere romantically "

ac1dfa1rypr1ncess · 2022-02-28T18:43:18+00:00

woman here— this is absolutely true for me and many of the girls i know. touching can come off and weird and uncomfortable especially on the first date.

not touching makes us feel more safe and we will be 10x more attracted to a guy that does this than a guy that’s too touchy. i think it’s like a magnetic attraction kinda thing… this is why many women go for guys that ignore them /don’t seem care / want them. reverse psychology kinda thing.

Right-Durian1685 · 2022-02-28T19:01:39+00:00

Yep some guy tried to lick my arm and arrange a 2nd date ASAP..Needless to say I was creepy out and not interested

mightymite88 · 2022-03-02T05:45:24+00:00

Yep. I never ever touch anyone without their consent. And it has not hurt my game at all. Seduce them mentally and they'll be aching for you to touch them.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-02-28T21:39:19+00:00

What's the rush? Only guys for whom sex is scarce feel they always need to escalating and harassing girls.

Title	I've had dates where I didn't touch them at all, and it still lead to a second date.
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Date	February 28, 2022 4:11 PM UTC (4 years ago)
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