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[–]Canadian-Seductioner 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Not sure what you look like, but provided you're not overweight or bad-looking, dress yourself to accentuate your assets, put on makeup as needed, go solo to bars/clubs, make eye contact and smile with men you like, and they (+ others you haven't even noticed) will approach you guaranteed.
[–]sparklyellie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I feel like I'm quite pretty, but I am slightly overweight (im 165cm / 75kg). The problem is, I already do all that (except the going solo part), and I still don't get any male reaction. I wish I knew what to do to get validation lmao
[–]Canadian-Seductioner 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I am slightly overweight (im 165cm / 75kg)
Yeah, that might explain it. Remember, guys are very much visual creatures and how you look is much more important than anything else you have going on so you need to make yourself as physically attractive as possible if you want guys to actually approach you.
The problem is, I already do all that
I can't really comment on this unless you're willing to share a photo of what you look like when you go out. Either way, the more cleavage you display, the more attention you'll get.
(except the going solo part)
Might be worth a shot. Lots of guys are too intimidated to approach women when they're with their friends. It's much easier for them to approach a girl when she's solo.
I wish I knew what to do to get validation
Look hot. That's it, really.
[–]Ecstatic-Flounder-48 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
OP. If you want the honest truth, your weight is probably holding you back. I’m not trying to offend you, just telling you how I think things through.
And I’ve dated someone with your exact proportions and decided after the fact that the attraction just wasn’t there.
[–]sparklyellie 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Maybe losing 10kg would make me more attractive?
[–]epilamun 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just focus on being your healthiest self, don't focus on numbers. Try lift some weights centred around compound lifts and cardio and eat at a slight calorific deficit (300). Give it 8 months and the flocking will begin.
[–]Ecstatic-Flounder-48 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe. Idk what you look like. But based on the information you gave us and my past experiences, that’s my best answer
[–]Marcoscondit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
She could just look mean also if you look through the internet you’ll see thousands of times a dude asking how to approach or get rid of approach anxiety
[–]Ecstatic-Flounder-48 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I mean dude do you really want to just tell people to go and blame everyone else for their problems?
Or would you rather tell them to fix something for themselves that will objectively increase their chances?
The advice I gave has a point. Yours doesn’t besides smile more. Oh nobody approaches me because they’re all scared to. I’m just gonna live my whole life like there’s nothing I need to change about myself. It’s not good advice.
Maybe it’s not her weight but losing weight helps irrespective of any other factor besides just losing weight.
[–]Marcoscondit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Maybe it’s not why you assuming like your absolutely right. What if she did smile more and it worked out. If it doesn’t she can always try something else.
Like maybe lose weight idk 🤷♂️
[–]JacobMoogberg69 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It takes a magic combination of two things to attract men and turn them on. The first is that someone must be attractive enough. This criteria tends to be very fluid and changes based on how long it has been since they've had sex, how late in the night it is and how many beers they've had. The second magic factor is that a woman must appear willing.
That's all it takes! So go and looksmaxx and then work on your body language and dressing to appear more willing.
[–]Backheelfields 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Is this post forreal? Just make a tinder account and have at it lol. You will have infinite selections despite your size
[–]Marcoscondit 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It’s not always you some guys shit themselves at the thought of even approaching a girl so they don’t do it
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Be pleasant and present socially, give off a good vibe that you are someone any person of any gender would want in our life.
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