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[–]Vulturo 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
"Maybe a little more than a hookup". Contextualise as a hookup, and maybe, just maybe a little more depending on how you feel about each other.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (14 children) | Copy Link
If she replies "I'm not looking for a hookup" it means she is definitely looking for a hook up. And you are an idiot to ask. Do you think they are all looking for Prince Charming on Tinder?
[–][deleted] 10 points11 points12 points 4 years ago (12 children) | Copy Link
Doesn't answer my main question
[–]JacobMoogberg69 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (11 children) | Copy Link
Can I ask you something? Do you spend half of your paycheck on cosmetics and clothes? Do you spend 3 hours in the bathroom before you go out? If you do what do you do there? Comb your pubes to all face the same direction?
I can confidently assume that you do none of these things because you are not a woman. Then how exactly are you going to relate to what goes on in a woman's head? How do you think that you will be able to figure out what they are thinking? YOU CANT! Don't even try to figure out what they are thinking. Focus only on what you want and let them get on with your program. You are trying so hard to get on with the girls program and that's always a losing proposition.
[–][deleted] 9 points10 points11 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Okay, point taken. My main question was asking about things like flirting and physical escalation though, not trying to decipher her thoughts.
[+]JacobMoogberg69 -13 points-12 points-11 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Lol reread your post again. You are thinking about what she is thinking.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Are you implying that girls are supposed to do all the work for me, and I'm not supposed to build attraction through flirting and physical touch?
[–]excentrik-art 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
It is not that they have to do it all for you. But you more you leave to her (knowing how) more she will have to try to chase you, therefore like you more
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Still need to flirt and build tension
[–]excentrik-art 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, imagine a guy doing everything you can think of to get a girl he has little chance to get without her even lifting a finger. There are also girls doing everything to get a boy without him ever reciprocitating, only using her, no flirt, no tension. But that is some expert level shit
[–]ChutiyaChutney420 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Comb your pubes to all face the same direction?
Had me there
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
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[–]JacobMoogberg69 -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It's a figure of speech.
[–]cyrusol -1 points0 points1 point 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Are you a woman?
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Women who are looking to hookup will say so. I was on Tinder specifically for hookups, no strings attached. It worked out great for me.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Not always. I had sex with a girl on the 2nd meet who literally wrote in her bio "I will not hookup with you", in all caps.
My last hookup was the only one that was actually like that.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m actually a woman, so I kind of do know what I’m talking about, but… I guess this is more of a man’s workshop on guessing what to do. Please… continue.
[–]JacobMoogberg69 -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You don't understand. We cannot be honest with you about what we want. We have to find a way to pretend to be something we are not because we think this is what you actually want, so we can deceive you into getting what we really wanted in the first place which happens to be the same thing as what you want.
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you want to try to “hook up” with the type of woman who pretends to not want it. Because there are a lot of people on Tinder who say exactly what they want. It makes no sense to me why you would choose someone who says they don’t want it. Could it be that you choose on looks alone? Because when I was swiping on Tinder, I avoided guys who said they wanted a relationship, like the plague.
[–]excentrik-art 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Ok ask a guestion - why would someone write "I WILL NOT HOOKUP WITH YOU" on theirs Tinder bio? Because it happened, and definitelly not once, not twice, but veeery frequently.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It wasn't tinder to be fair, and yeah, I get that. She probably just didn't want to seem easy
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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I mean, I don't want to tell her I want a relationship if that's not what I really want.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
That's what I plan to do with these two online dates. Just gonna meet and vibe. If things are going well, I'll escalate. From there, I can determine whether she is interested or not.
[–][deleted] 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I don't even think I have logistics. I'll settle for making out if I have to.
[–]thats0K -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
stick in hole? tonight? 8p?
[–][deleted] 13 points14 points15 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
im starting to think this sub is full of incels
[–]that27thkid[🍰] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Subs trash apart for the small 1% posts that come here and there
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There was a post saying that it's impossible for average men to get laid. Guy who posted it sounds like an incel.
[–]that27thkid[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That’s Reddit for you 🤣
[–]thats0K 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
more like volcel. chasing pussy is the biggest waste of fucking time.
[–]spartan-kick 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If you’re only looking for one night stands then don’t meet the girl. If you’re an easy-going kinda guy and don’t mind expanding your social network (even if she doesn’t want a hookup), then I would meet with an open mind. But I would still test the waters by flirting, touching, teasing to see if she’s really into you or just wants attention.
Eh, I mean, I don't mind waiting a date or two before sex. If she isn't receptive to my escalation I'll just cut things off
I did fuck a girl who said adamantly said no hookups in her bio, so I think it's definitely possible
[–]sepia_dreamer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (8 children) | Copy Link
I appreciate the question. No answers or insight from my end, but I relate to the struggle. I tend to be overly asexual in dealing with women it would seem.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
What do you mean when you say that you're asexual when dealing with women? Like, you act too much like a friend? If so, that's a weird fucking way to word it lmao
[–]sepia_dreamer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
In my interactions I developed a way of connecting that completely dodges sexual tension in most cases even while developing close connections.
One girl wondered if I was gay, and another referred to me as a “gay best friend”, although my ex said it was clear that wasn’t the case. But essentially I was raised on this “don’t sexualize girls” ethic and took it to heart growing up. The upside is I have some great female friendships, and girls tend to feel safe around me. The downside is crossing that line from connecting to connecting sexually doesn’t tend to happen often.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Wait, so are you asexual? Or do you just act like you don't have much sexuality when you're around women?
[–]sepia_dreamer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Extremely not asexual, just clueless on pursuing a sexual liaison, and play as if I’m not interested by habit of how I was taught growing up.
I mean, have you tried flirting, physical escalation, etc? Or do you just act like a friend? You have to show intention.
[–]sepia_dreamer 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Yeah so basically it’s a mental barrier of intention. I want it in the abstract but in the moment the tendency is to push it out of my mind.
I mean part of it is just that I move slowly anyway, and part is that I’m super picky, and part of it is the programming I grew up with which makes me even wonder if it’s ok to pursue such things.. there’s a lot of layers to it.
You sound like you could benefit from some therapy
[–]sepia_dreamer 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Perhaps
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