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[–]Sadman737272 12 points13 points14 points 4 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
You let the game get to your head brother. LTR women have standards, and unfortunately you were an asshole about something that was very minor. If you can’t tolerate an hour of lateness, when she has given you a heads up, what else would you not tolerate?
When you’re fishing using pick up techniques etc, most of the women you meet won’t be LTR compatible. It’s the nature of the pond that you’re fishing in. So don’t let the gems slip by.
[–]CONK-zero -2 points-1 points0 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I don't know what to tell her. I know I need not be desperate, so definitely don't want to be the one "crawling back"
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Just be a fucking man and own up to your mistakes when being an asshole. It's called accountability and there's nothing "low-value" about that.
[–]livingthesaurus 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
See, you say you saw a future with this woman but how can you expect to be able to maintain that if you can’t be vulnerable through an apology? It’s not “crawling back” it’s a new obstacle for where this is headed. Obstacles are inevitable in relationships casual or not. And it’s up to each of your reactions to overcome and develope further. It’s a bad sign if you’re ready to give up at the first sign of trouble. Might be best if you stay hoeing.
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[–]livingthesaurus 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You’re overthinking. You don’t know why she’s not answering. If it were me, I would still keep my distance for a while until i think it through and feel comfortable enough to be vulnerable with you again. If she was that interested in the recent past she likely still is. Feelings aren’t an on and off switch. What you did isn’t bad enough to destroy your image in her eyes, IMHO. Give her some space, let her stew in it, if you’re apology felt sincere, she probably just needs time.
[–]Sadman737272 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Leave it
[–]skatinislife446 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Reach out and be honest. What’s the worst that can happen?
[–]CONK-zero 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don't know. I assumed if she wanted things to work then she wouldn't get mad and go ghost. It was complete 180 after that night. I bet by now she's had a few guys to get her along.
[–]nikgos 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don't let PUA content turn you into a self-centered sociopath, dude. You are dealing with another human being. If you can't see where you went wrong then it's time to have a hard look in the mirror.
[–]Silly-Leg-1124 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
If she warns about being late beforehand, that’s a good behaviour, you need to reward it by saying « Thanks for letting me know »
It’s import to reward her good behaviour, she will learn the she did something you like, and that’s her sign on how to please you.
Being indecisive and reactive and moody is a feminine trait, a solid frame is firm, when you forgive you move on. When she crosses a red line, you make sure she understands, and punish her with silence.
Always make sure to spot good behaviour and reward it and bad behaviour and punish for it (with less attention)
[–]JobRevolutionary946 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I'm in the exact same situation, you have to be more upfront though and make certain she knows what you're looking for
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