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iambabyshark · 2021-11-28T14:28:46+00:00

You're fine, don't stress "wasting" college. Men have the most value in their 30s and most people here don't even go to college. Besides, a college grad has more value than a student. As for your last relationship, think of it as a learning experience.

For what you should do now: learn game. Go to bars, volunteer, events, whatever you can, and practice. Hang out with college friends, don't let those relationships die. Take up hobbies you enjoy, meet people there. Hit the gym (if you have the money, buy equipment now since covid is likely closing those soon), get some fresh clothes, pay off your debts. It's only over if you let it be over. Otherwise, keep playing.

--hundy · 2021-11-28T14:26:07+00:00

Dwelling is worse than how you spent those years.

You believe you made a mistake, now learn from it. “Game” is literally just bettering yourself, can’t be confident if you don’t have any reason to be confident. Work out, get a hobby, and simply talk to people. You’ll do fine.

ZenPowrrr · 2021-11-28T15:00:38+00:00

lol.

Your prime is your 30s.

The 20s and below are for learning, making massive amounts of mistakes, and finding yourself. Your big early relationship was just that. Some people I know were married in college and spent their entire 20s with that person only to have it fall apart later on.

You still have many good years and GASP you haven't even reached your prime yet. You'll still look good in your 30s and your experience will allow you to be a better partner, or just a guy who hooks up with attractive women.

humptyone · 2021-11-29T00:04:28+00:00

Let's just hope you dont breed. You could never sire a derby winner now

rewinder909 · 2021-11-28T16:58:35+00:00

All I can recommend to you is the books no more Mr nice guy, and models. You need to change your mindset, it's your biggest problem right now. Start asking yourself "what if it was a gift?" You lost 5 years in a toxic relationship, but was it really a loss? You improved your sex life and experience, you learnt that sex and beauty is not the most important thing to have a good relationship. Maybe the fact that you guys broke was a gift and a new beginning for you. Life is a journey, and your still young, so get out there and improve your life.

DizzyxSin · 2021-11-28T17:30:25+00:00

Lol not all men get to enjoy the 20s. Most men who aren't as attractive or bright have to figured it out later but still get to enjoy their 30s.

outplay-nation · 2021-11-28T16:20:10+00:00

20s is prime for women not men. Your prime is in 30s

heatherleean · 2021-11-28T22:24:13+00:00

babe you’re in your prime rn, mid twenties is when you start to become a MAN. the college sex and crazy drinking part of you has died so now you don’t have the wet mop personality of a frat guy & you’re hot! go get em

btrpb · 2021-11-28T15:33:21+00:00

Prime years lol

UrFavPlayerIsBack · 2021-11-28T22:42:21+00:00

Start dating multiple ones, what else?

peppacantresistblake · 2021-11-28T23:45:27+00:00

i am optimus prime

WheelIntelligent1354 · 2021-11-29T00:27:23+00:00

No men, now you're a bit older you can get laid with college girls more easily as you are more respectful and older.

bemore_ · 2021-11-29T00:52:37+00:00

What competition

Sk1rtSk1rtSk1rt · 2021-11-29T00:58:12+00:00

Your game is destroyed but you are successful with multiple in succession hookups?

brobrobro907 · 2021-11-29T01:11:06+00:00

U had a girl. Wtf u complaining bout. Most guys go single. U lucky u had someone to fuck all them years

No-Reporter3692 · 2021-11-29T01:57:55+00:00

If your prime is anywhere near your twenties you have MUCH bigger problems than girl decisions.

Dear_Difficulty2767 · 2021-11-29T02:50:23+00:00

This thread helped me alot...

recyclablebanthas · 2021-11-29T05:18:33+00:00

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I’m in my mid twenties..... Wasted my prime with one girl.

Your college years aren't the prime years. Anything up to the age of 40 can be your prime if you play your cards right.

Honestly, I know a guy in his 50s who has no desire to settle down and is still dating around. He has more fun dating than a lot of people I know who are in their college years.

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I just realized I missed my prime years in college with dating one girl throughout.

There's a reason why high school and college are often considered the prime years for dating, and the leads to a misunderstanding is to how all of this works.

Those years are often considered prime years for dating is that these circumstances place a lot of people who are in the same age group together in one place, usually for years.

But these conditions can be recreated on our own by looking for various clubs and groups that meet regularly. Social partner dancing or any other interest/hobby groups could fit the bill.

You find a group or groups and then you'll be exposed to new people on a pretty regular basis if you play your cards right.

I've used this to recreate my social circle number of times. I've recommended it for others.

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Also my game is destroyed because of staying with one girl for about five years… now I’m trying to improve.

This is a valid concern but it's also not the end of the world.

Many of us here have dealt with this kind of situation repeatedly in our lives.

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I think the reason I am sometimes successful with those hook ups now is because of my looks and “talent” in bed which women talk to each other cause I have no game.

Let's go over this part:

You're getting laid/hooking up with people.
Looks alone and sexual prowess don't matter if someone doesn't know how to navigate the social interactions required to get to sex, etc. (This subreddit is littered with people complaining about how they can't get laid despite being good looking, etc.)
You're getting laid due to word of mouth, which is actually quite advanced. Do you realize that a lot of guys here will never get to this level because they burn their bridges every time they attempt something with a girl?

You main issue appears to be that your confidence has been wrecked by your last relationship. That certainly does affect game but it doesn't permit you from getting the latest you've clearly seen.

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