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2021-11-14T21:00:48+00:00

Yikes, this is a clusterfuck.

Bro, you are not FWBs with her if you don't do anything but awkwardly kiss for 3 seconds. She's using you for validation and emotional support after a breakup and I guarantee you, you get her drunk or angry or lonely enough and she'll fuck her ex again.

Have some self respect and toss her away. This is a horrible mistake you are making.

You aren't losing anything special. Nobody is special. You are losing a future you THINK you have because you made it up in your head and you're trying to get her to fill that role. I've done it.

Money, success, fitness, happiness, and social life are what you need right now. Not women. Not a scarcity mindset.

dark_helmt8 · 2021-11-15T00:38:00+00:00

Ditch the b*tch and move on right away. Like literally today. Say that getting to know her was a gift, but that you both want different things, and that if she ever wants to HOOK UP, to call you and come over. Leave it there, no explanations, no emotion. Ice cold. Walk away and lose her shit on social media, phone, email etc and NEVER contact her again, under any circumstances, even if she catches fire. Give her the gift of losing you.

You've essentially become her little purse dog she takes around with her. Someone to pay attention to her when she wants, but not when she doesn't. That weekend with the girls... Chads going balls deep in her wap bro. 100%.

This shit was over the moment she said no to a kiss. She's just been using you, like an emotional vampire. I promise you when you stop contacting her and end, she will NOT reach out to you again because she does not give a shit about you.

Someone who really wanted to be FWB with her wouldve told her that they dont want to hear about her ex bf or anything else because her mouth is being used for something than getting face f*ucked. And I mean that, Ive literally said that before and with damaged girls like that, it works. They love being used and tossed aside because they cant get enough of the drama. You sound like a stable, thriving man, someone to settle down with. In other words, for her, you're boring. For a good, sensible woman, you're a catch. Go find her. I dont mean to be harsh, but this is the truth. Accept it and just tell her that you're moving on right now, before you keep torturing yourself while she's on that fucktrip, bouncing up n down on Chad.

daysofozvald · 2021-11-14T23:44:40+00:00

This type of attachment doesn’t sound healthy. Either learn to get in touch with your feelings and be okay being her friend and nothing else, or the most obvious one, just remove her from your life and work on yourself.

nupollution · 2021-11-14T22:46:50+00:00

It sounds like this feels HUGE to you, and that’s normal. Take heart and have some perspective, in a few years this will be a silly memory with a good lesson. It’s up to you what the lesson is, and how long it takes you to learn it!!

Winter-Survey3668 · 2021-11-14T22:53:17+00:00

Bottom line is this doesn't sound like it's healthy for you. It may be difficult but her actions have shown you she's not interested (no matter what her words say)!!! It sounds like you should move on. Don't worry there are plenty of people out there and someone will think you are great and you'll feel valued by them and in return you'll value them! I do recommend while you are in between love interest to do some personal growth work and enjoy your life a little by doing things that bring you joy! Basically date yourself till there is someone truly worth your attention.

freetheballs69 · 2021-11-15T00:25:13+00:00

Dude you are under her spell. You just chasing a carott my man. You are keep saying you are afraid of loosing her but it is clear as day you don’t have her. At this point you are in the FRIENDZONE you are being used as an emotional support dog to heal his ego and either go back to her ex or find a new guy.

That said, I feel you you invested a lot in this girl you like her a lot and feel like you two would be great and if you wait a bit more, do a bit better she will realize how good of a man you are. Ain’t gonna happen, you gave your best to her and she is still not interested so i’d say go on dates with other girls and cut her loose

totalwarwiser · 2021-11-15T01:05:11+00:00

I think you are on the fence, and you have everything to lose but also everything to win.

You will probabily lose, but that doesnt stop you from trying.

Imho you should do this now, bet, and deal with whatever outcome happens. Waiting will just make you suffer more. And you will probabily suffer anyway.

The only possible outcome if you wait is that you will lose and suffer. Better to bet now, because you have a small margin to win, and if you lose you will suffer but you will be able to start dealing with it.

You fear losing her, but that is making you suffer every single day. You are already suffering the worst that can happen, because you dont even have her, so if you dont have her how can you lose her?

You have to bet to earn her.

Tell her you like her. Tell her your feelings. Tell her you want more.

Its her choice, but you have to stand tall in what you want. If she doesnt want you just deal with it and move on. You are already suffering enough. If she says no you will not have lost anything because you have nothing. If she says yes you can start building upon it.

SuttinLikeDat · 2021-11-15T01:45:37+00:00

Just tell her how you feel. It’s difficult but it’s that simple.

lildudefromXdastreet · 2021-11-15T02:09:05+00:00

What The hell happened to this sub? One of the first rules back in the day was to have an abundance mindset and avoid oneitis. How the hell are you “FWB” with a girl you’re not even regularly fucking?

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